Men over 50 are better lovers

[Buck]

From the story.....
"A 25-year-old with a firm six pack might be fun to look at and know how to satisfy himself. But what about satisfying you?

Rippling, hard muscles. Firm six pack. Tight, round butt. He undresses you hurriedly. Your pulse is racing. You open your eyes to see a chiseled twenty-five-year-old face with the look of fiery hunger burning in his eyes. He wants you desperately. You want him madly. Your kisses are delicious and wet and deep and full. Your passion builds. Your breath comes faster. He pumps faster and faster, harder and harder ...

Sound good? Before you decide, consider this: The whole scene, start to finish, took twenty minutes, max. Fortunately, he is resilient. He has a brief recovery time-out, and you start all over again. This time, if you are lucky, he thinks about you and your orgasm. If you are in a typical situation, you may reach orgasm or you might feel pressure to fake it. Of course, he thinks you are loving it. And, why wouldn't he? You are telling him so, over and over, as we are taught to do as women."

http://www.alternet.org/sex/98658/why_i%27d_rather_sleep_with_a_man_over_50/

It's nice to know some women understand older guys.

[EarthMama]

My man and I have been doin' the deed since we were both 18 years old (we're now 52) and both of us say that things are *much* better now, than they were at 18, for this very reason.

Slower... nicer... kinder... more experienced... more meaningful... and much longer! ::)

[mom]

My man and I have been doin' the deed since we were both 18 years old (we're now 52) and both of us say that things are *much* better now, than they were at 18, for this very reason.

Slower... nicer... kinder... more experienced... more meaningful... and much longer! * ::)

amen

[Bandit]

I find that now it takes All Night to do what I use to do All night ???
Bob

[EarthMama]

I find that now it takes All Night to do what I use to do All night ???
Bob

*heh*

That's not always a bad thing, Bandit. ;) ;D

[mom]

*heh*

That's not always a bad thing, Bandit. * ;) * ;D
Yea, I thought it was one of the benefits

[EarthMama]

There something to be said about men in their late 30s as well. ;D


Such as........

;D

[MHinFox]

LOL earthmama...put the poor guy on the spot didnt you....LOL

[DonnaKay]

or you might feel pressure to fake it. Of course, he thinks you are loving it. And, why wouldn't he? You are telling him so, over and over, as we are taught to do as women."



NEVER fake it....it reenforces bad behavior....like giving your dog a treat for peeing on the floor....don't do it

[Gwynyvyr]

I date younger men.
Tried, oh jeeze, I tried to date ones my own age and older since I turned 38-39....always ended in a disaster.
Their idea of a big date is ordering pizza, grabbing a 6-pack and renting a movie, following by three minutes of groping and some sex if they remembered their Viagra prescription... ::)
So, at age 39, I married a 19 yr old.
We split 'bout 8 years later, so I started dating a 22 year old. Lived with him for a bit, then moved and dated a 20 year old...
Now happily devoted to a 36 year old.
Best damn lover I have ever had.
Best.
Ever.
Probably the best on the planet.
Yeah, I am smitten, hooked, obsessed. Heh-heh...

[rockymtngirl]

Hey Gwyn - I can relate, but not sure how long you've been with your younger guy. I'm 46 - started dating BF when I was 38 and he was 25, great lover and still true...to a certain point. Seriously am to the point where I am ready to buy some land, set in for the long haul. Problem is BF is still pretty iffy on income, etc. After 7 years pretty much am ready to bail. I would be fine if the relationship had stayed 'benefits' only with no shared housing etc. My fault I guess. Anyway, I think when you get to this point even the 'benefits' are not worth the price.

RMG

[Gwynyvyr]

Rockygirl...My darlin' man is US Army...about to retire. No worries in the income department. ;D
We are looking to buy some homestead properties ourselves.
Took almost two years of discussion to decide on:
Region, then state, then county...even went over topo maps and such to decide precisely where in the county...we are both VERY detailed area, which is cool, as being that way has driven my other partners nuts over the years, lol! Good to find someone that I am compatible with in all areas!

[Coleen]

Men over 50 are often more considerate.

[flatwater]

Thats because when you don't have the recovery thing going for you , being considerate is the next best thing. ::) ::) ;D
flatwater

[FZRaven]

It's all a state of mind, most young guys are selfish they think it's all about them. Personally I think it's a symptom of society, it's what we are shown sex is supposed to be.

Personally I've never had these problems, because I've always thought about it as a two person affair. I'm not their to get off and be done, and on my way. To me it's all about being together with the person you love and taking your time. Everybody today is in a rush, making love is not something that should be rushed. Slow down take your time, foreplay is not tearing her clothes off kissing her and then right into sex. If time permits I like to take it nice and slow, more passion then a mad rush to finish. And frankly to me if she does not get off, I've failed.

It's just another skill to be practice and get better at. I've done my fair share of learning, both book and practical. And I'm sure I've got plenty of learning still ahead of me, or at least I hope so. ;)

[flatwater]

Just try and convince a 20 year old that 50 and older make better lovers.
flatwater

[deeker]

Most of my wife's friends...and mine....agree. Older is better.

Not so self centered as a young buck.

[indyguy]

while Im not yet 50 (almost) I know that in many ways the 49yo Rob is much improved verson of the 20yo Rob.

He is a better listener, more caring of others feelings, less selfish, a better friend and as a lover more willing to spend a few houre doing what he once did in 30 seconds!

So from that stand point the 50yo Rob is a much better lover.

[daphodil]

I haven't been with a guy "over 50." I've been with men older than me.

The best "lover" I have ever had just held me and I never quite got over him.

I have found that men who are technically good in bed tend to have been around so much that it leaves me distracted with where (and on who) they learned all that stuff :)

[Wyobuckaroo]

Daf

If you are that easily distracted in that kind of situation, maybe you are not as glad to be there as anyone else......

Now, if everyone present is equally eager to be there, yesterdays history is of no consequence. It is just that, 'old history'

KnowwhatImean

Wyo

[Michael32170]

Got yourself a bumper sticker there Buck.........

[daphodil]

I guess I don't understand your responses. Anyway, my point was, love is the key not age.

[joshtaylor]

Let's not forget the older women. When I was 21 I learned a hell of a lot from a 43 year old lady. I'm 28 now, and let's just say I've learned the virtue of patience and how it pays off!

[firegirl969]

Ya'll are getting me excited! DH is turning 49 this month. I got alot to look forward to! Yipee!

[Aliceone]

I've always preferred older men. They have more personality and a mature (you'd think that was obvious, but it isn't, always) point of view and yes, they are great in bed. My current partner is closing in on 60 and he and I have gotten really good at communicating what we want or need and shedding all that silly stuff society tries to teach us is normal or expected. He has control, too, which I **greatly** appreciate!

It is a learning process with any partner, but men are willing where boys usually aren't.

Plus, younger woman, reaching middle age sexual peak + older, experienced male= woohoo!

[Aliceone]

Hey Gwyn - I can relate, but not sure how long you've been with your younger guy. I'm 46 - started dating BF when I was 38 and he was 25, great lover and still true...to a certain point. Seriously am to the point where I am ready to buy some land, set in for the long haul. Problem is BF is still pretty iffy on income, etc. After 7 years pretty much am ready to bail. I would be fine if the relationship had stayed 'benefits' only with no shared housing etc. My fault I guess. Anyway, I think when you get to this point even the 'benefits' are not worth the price.

RMG

Hey, girl, you set the boundaries in a relationship and you both set the rules. Forget what you know about how things are supposed to be and form a situation that does what you want it to do. If sharing a bed, but not a house works, then create that in your life. You can always change if it doesn't work.

My partner and I are as married as any couple, without the certificate and ceremony. We keep separate finances and pay our comingled bills half and half. We spend every hour of every day together, working from home and keeping the rest of the world at bay. We like it this way.

We don't control each other. We each have a couple of chores that have come to be our personal chores, but there is no rule that I do this and he does that and neither of us holds the other accountable. I tend to do the dishes and he tends to cook, but he isn't required to and if the dishes sit, I don't get a speech. I'm not a "housewife" and he isn't expected to do all the dirty chores because he's a guy. When we clean the gutters, I'm up on the ladder.

I'm just saying, think about what you want and need, what really works for you, and renegotiate. You'll both be happier for it. I'll bet he senses your displeasure and it affects your interactions.

Don't know the situation, but making a lot of money is one of the last things I'd consider as a priority, as long as there's enough to eat and the bills are covered.

[MelleeRN]

Let you all know once my hubby is over 50:) he still has a few years