Whats your hardest part about getting old

[lostone1413]

Me i'm 57 almost 58. I think the hardest thing for me as I get old well I guess a couple things
1- When I see a young man well built I remember all to well when that was me. Not that i'm in bad shape at my age but still a long way from 20.

2- When I see a beautiful woman I remember when women like that wanted to be with me and how strong the passion was in them years

What bothers you the most about getting older. Then at time I llok at the way the world is and i'm glad I have more years behind me then ahead of me LOL

[txanne63]

Getting old IS the hardest part.

I too remember the young passion---the fire!

Now all anyone wants from me is a soft place to fall and three hots and a cot.

They will never know what their missing.


Trying to reach the end gracefully.

annie

[gypho]

Ok ok ok.... since I'll be 39 (for real, the first time, lol) in October, I'd like to know when the fires begin to burn out. My mother is 59 and she tells me that she's ummmm "still going strong".... matter of fact, she's sendin' hubby to the doc for ......"help"....

She tells me that I got at least 20 more good years, and more, from the looks of her. Also, according to her, I'm her clone, thereby the assumption that I'll have the years to spare. LOL

So what's all this about *sigh*'ing and "memories".... I intend to keep makin' em. If hubby can't keep up, I guess I'll just have to trade him in on a couple of younger models, or an older one with a good motor. ;D ;D ;D

Phooey on going gracefully... in the words of Def Leppard...

"It's better to burn out, than fade away........"

gypho

[lostone1413]

I think as far as the passion slowing down i'd say in your late 20s it starts. Least for a woman. I've never seen a woman who had the drive in her 30s that she had in her 20s. Now with a guy it seem the mind is willing but the body not able. I think as a man gets older it is important for that woman to really come on to him. Make him think that is the most important think in her life to be with him. Then you still have them times you look in the mirror and you don't know if you dhould laugh or cry

[gypho]

Well, my mother and I must be of a "unique" breed... I personally have been going strong...... STRONG...... for the last 10 years, even MORE SO than in my 20's...

As far as a man keeping up.... that's a whole-nuther issue. Yet to be resolved, lol. Imagine GRIPING about your wife wanting you....... too much. Now you see MY plight. >:(

gypho

[lostone1413]

Yep you bet she is rare if she has a strong sex drive at that age. To me and everyone i've known that old commercial that use to tell people your not getting older your getting better That is the biggest lie ever told.

Far as you at 39 you have to ask yourself being 100% honest if you have the drive you had 20 years ago. I remember well a woman from say 19 until her mid 20s you didn't get out of the drive. That is what I miss lol

[lostone1413]

Wish you could send some of that drive to my wife LOL She is 49

[gypho]

The best part about having the drive at this age...........

Not only do I have it, now I know what to do with it when the "opportunity" knocks.

gypho ;)

[farmgirl]

hmm....this is very interesting.

I think for women it's mental or emotional. For men, it must be physical. I am not sure. I know that in our 20's and 30's we had the babies....nothing like a midnite and 4 am feeding, and him having to work 12 hr. days during those years to put the brakes on 'passion'. We wanted sleep!

Seems that when we moved out here to the farm over 10 yrs. ago, and the kids were older and the older ones could look after the younger ones, that's when our passion kicked in. We were older, more comfortable and felt more secure with one another...and we loved each other dearly, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Almost everyday was not enough for us........

I don't think it's age. He was 50 when he died and he was more sexual the older he got than when I married him and he was 28. I think it's where you are in your feelings for one another.

[opsrto]

Hardest part about growing old?
What I used to be able to do all night long now takes me all night to do..... well that is what I heard ;D

[Cattails]

Getting older...as far as the passion goes it is still there, a more "comfortable" being with one another and it is satisfying to us. Being older I do miss being young and meeting someone and you know right away if there is this "chemistry" between you. It could set me off into a frenzy. ;)

Physically, getting older is starting to take it's toll on my health and I'm just 48.

Emotionally and mentally, it's starting to take it's toll on me concerning the health of my parents. They're in their mid '70s and the changes are happening so fast. It hurts to know they will not be there, perhaps too much longer, though I pray they will be around many more years. I may be 48 but I still need my mom and dad, ya know. :(

[txanne63]

If your not after what I am here after--You 'll be here a long time after i have come and gone! ;D


If you want your wife to have a little over-drive---ask yourself----What have i done for her lately--to know this?

You expect her to fall out in ready node---she cant anymore than you can-----------its all in the touch and the words mister---check out what you aint doing for her.

Experience knows--- ;)

annie

[MNMOM]

That sounds about right Annie, I don't think that we ever lose the sex drive, but if it becomes boring, or you take your partner for granted that can put the skids on the sex drive. A kindness here and there can go a long ways.

[nancy1340]

Hardest part about growing old?
What I used to be able to do all night long now takes me all night to do..... well that is what I heard ;D


And the problem with this is ????????????????????? ;)

[gypho]

And the problem with this is ????????????????????? ;)


Ditto. Times nine. ;)

gypho

[Arkansas_Fat_Man]

8) The older I get ( I'm 47) The more it really dosen't matter. Sounds crazy! Maybe so but it's kinda like out of sight , out of mind. I keep busy with my job& my gun shows. And then sometimes I think I would really love to find that right lady but i'm so tired i probably wouldn't be able to stay awake anyway.lol So I guess i'll just drop dead as gracefully as possible & hope someone finds me before I start to stink! ;D

[preliator]

forgeting things...........
forgeting things...........
hmmmmmmmm
forgeting things........... ;)

oh hell i forgot what was the question?

anthony

[dinabug38]

the hardest part about turning 40?

not looking like you use to...

and

not being looked at like you use to

but times they are a changin....

dina
posting a sign that says " pardon our mess, we are remodeling to better serve you" lol

[gypho]

posting a sign that says " pardon our mess, we are remodeling to better serve you" lol

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

;)gypho ;D

[txanne63]

*the hardest part about turning 40?

not looking like you use to...

and

not being looked at like you use to

but times they are a changin....

dina
posting a sign that says " pardon our mess, we are remodeling to better serve you" *lol





Bahahhaaaaaaaa--you got it----but after you remodel---then you are much more selective about WHOM visits your establishment--- ;D

I believe women have affairs because the man in her life---wants her to be something HE'S NOT!!
Slim trim and active in the sack-----Men want us to be what their not and too lazy to become.


annie

[txanne63]

Hardest part about growing old?
What I used to be able to do all night long now takes me all night to do..... well that is what I heard ;D


Did he say all night?

ALL NIGHT?
REALLY?
COOL!

annie

[gypho]

Did he say all night?

ALL NIGHT?
REALLY?
COOL!

annie


He DID. I saw it, in type.

gypho, swoonin', sweatin', and dreamin' here.
;D

[txanne63]

Gypho----STEP AWAY FROM THE MAN--AND DO IT NOW!

Mine all mine I tell ysa!!!

LOL LOL 8)


annie

[Quietgentleman]

Holding the door for a pretty young lady and flashing a smile then having her say Thank You Sir. Sir my god that totally deflated my sail and left me wondering when I had crossed that line to old fart. :o :o :o

Quietgentleman

[gypho]

Holding the door for a pretty young lady and flashing a smile then having her say Thank You Sir. Sir my god that totally deflated my sail and left me wondering when I had crossed that line to old fart. :o :o :o

Quietgentleman


Omgosh, that's so funny, I remember when hubby was working closer to home...

He came home one day all crowin' and struttin' his feathers out like a banny rooster will... he'd noticed a co-worker's younger sister eyeballin' him... and he IS a good lookin' man, but I rattle...

Anyway, the next day he was shattered. Seems the young girl turned out to be 18... hubby had just turned 30... and she told her brother, who was riding to work with hubby...

"That guy you're ridin' with sure is good-lookin'.... for an OLDER man."

I thought I'd never quit laughin.

And btw, QGM, holdin' the door open for ladies is a VERY attractive quality, IMHO. Don't stop. It can raise your status from "old fart" to "hunkaman" in a hurry. ;) They'll wonder what else you do for the ladies................?

gypho

[HillbillyPapa]

One thing is = when about 80% of the people you meet which speak to you,,,,, you can't seem to remember their name, etc. Then again,,, maybe you were best buddies with their dad or mother/or even grandpa's/grandmas=== and they just looked a lot like them back then.
When you decide to go to your old homeplace community= and it's not there anymore! School is gone, homes have gone, even the cows and chickens have gone! ::) ???
You remember what happened in the 60s real good,,,,, but for some odd reason you lost about everything that happened during the 80s and 90s! :-/ Now where was I and what was I doing at that time? :-[
When you have to have such stuff as====== Fasteeth,,, Just for Men,,,,, Lipitor,,,, Liposuction,,,,KY,,,,Tylenol 3,,, and get up 5 times at night to Pee! :o
Then again==== some of us still have the body,,uhhh,uhhh--- although it is not staying where we want it/and moving around a bit :D.
Some of us still have the sex drive. :-X But getting in gear is one thing, and keep it in gear is another altogether! ;)
You know you're getting old= When on your application for a job--- they multiple choice Sex- Male/Female= check one==== and you write in Absolutley! ::) 8)
As far as my sex drive = it's still pretty much intact. Unless I am real buisy or something, it's almost an everyday thing to me! Now the wifey,,,, has never- at least 98% of the time-- been the one which instagated sex in the last 32 years. ??? :o
In the last 10 years she has been going through mentalpause (spelling?) ??? Which has left me high and dry, if ya know what I mean. Anybody tried that hot spray stuff? No,,, wooops! ::) Strike that one!
She doesn't seem to have the energy that I have,, and nothing near the same requirement/should I say necessity? :(
Well,,,, I can still remember the time in our lives when we had steaming hot sex on a regular basis. Oh nevermind,,,,, sometimes we still do! hehehehehheheheahhah
One thing that is positive in the last couple months=======is this---------========= We have both been on a pretty much "crash diet" and extensive exercise plan.
She has lost 38 pounds, and I have lost about 20,,,, and that has made for better sex and stuff,, etc,,,,,and is starting to bring us Sortof=out of the Rut (spelling?) Torrible Speeler fur shoooo
Maybe it's because we are both feeling better about ourselves in bed because of the weightloss? ??? ::) After all,=====I always say====== some lovin is better than no lovinnnnnnnn!!! :D 8)

[txanne63]

Ever been through menopause HBPP?

Its a real bitch.
If your not freezing to death your living in the Sahara.
Feel like you eat a pot of beans all by yourself--bloated--nothing fits.

Some women qiut their menas cycle all togather--some nearly bleed to death.

Your nerves fell like someone to sandpaper to them and then pored alcohol on them.

Even your skin hurts--your hair doesnt even belong to you---and thats while your asleep!!

Then you have to get up and carry on with life---

Women do not have menopause to piss off men--they have it because its Natures way of shutting down the baby factory.

But men take it personally--thats that little thing called ego---

And to top it all off--men go out and have affairs with little slut puppies to soothe that silly ego and add another knife to her back---

Yeah, we really try to hold sex from ya--what we'd really like to do is tight it in a knot and show you how we feel.

Strange how we focus on ourselves rather than helping with the problem.

annie----amazed at the shallowness of mens egos

[dinabug38]

Never fear Annie,

I've ALWAYS been VERY selective !!!

even if the packaging isnt what it use to be....

the product is still EXQUISITE !


Dina 8)

[texasmom]

The hardest thing about getting older? My energy is gone - I want to do all sorts of things on the weekends - around this place - but when the weekend arrives, ninety percent of the time I sleep later than I mean to, loll around drinking coffee longer than I mean to, sit on the net longer than I mean to. Now that I'm moving into position to realize some of my dreams, I'm do dang tired to do the work involved! I think losing 30 pounds or so would help out - maybe it's time to get serious about that, before it really is too late.

As far as sex drive, I disagree completely that the drive goes down with women. I don't remember ever 'enjoying' sex in my 20's - had plenty of it, lots of practice - LOL - but more because 'that's what people do' than out of any real desire. Around my late 20's early 30's - that's when the lights came on! Now it's not as regular as it used to be, but DH and I both agree that what we lack in quantity is more than made up by quality!

I'm 49 - told a friend at work awhile back that my life was nearly half over - he laughed and said I needed to get real - no one lives to be 100. Well I'm gonna try -

Linda

[Arkansas_Fat_Man]

8) My God ! Annies giving em hell! ;D

[txanne63]

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
She is!!

'cause most of the time while a mans griping about no sex from a menapausal woman--his hair is gone--went out with his teeth---He has a tool shed way bigger than his tool and his breath smells like kerosene---he's a slob around the house and hasnt taken her out for 17 yrs.

Yep!!


TXMOM---I agree.
And about the time your body timer runs down--life starts pounding on ya!

annie---she understands! ;D

[HillbillyPapa]

I have heard all this Menapause crap for 15 years,, and I for one am sick and tired of the whole ordeal!
Talk about cranky,,, most of you don't even have an idea,, and I don't care how old you are and how much you think you know!
My wife had a hateful attitude, and was very short tempered before she even started menapause. Just think of how she is now? I would say 9 out of 10 men would have walked off and left within 2 years of this crap,,, and I don't care who they are!
I have been around a little myself,, and I do know women better than most men do.
I have met many (many! :o) women compared to the few badheads=== which , when,, mama= don't feel like it (as the old saying is, because of a headache) = carry around plenty of asprins around with them in their purses! They want Exactly what a man wants==== Sex, and that's it! (they leave all that whining and crying and boohooing for the elite few!
Besides that,,,, men go throught stuff too. I think they call it adropause (spelling?) or something to that effect.
Soooo's while women are craving all this Attention,,,,, men began to crave Sex. (which makes for some evident problems of sorts).
If women would try (put for Some sort of effort) to keep down the crankiness and overall stubborness attitudes= (like thinking a man is tied to them with a chain or something) === they would stop a whole lot of these affairs we hear about!
And that's all I got to say about thaaaaayt! 8)

[txanne63]

If I was tied to a cranky old fart HBPP---I'd buy a cutting torch---chew my leg/arm off-----to get away from ya!

Seems you made a decsion to stay-----quit your bitchin!!


annie

[gypho]

Well, I personally don't care how much "bitchin'" is involved. So long as he gives it up, I don't care. ;D Gripe all ya want, just gimme.

Besides..... what better way to make up?

gypho

[foxfire]

Among other symptoms associated with aging, I'm suffering from an ailment most refer to as "furniture disease". That is: my chest is falling towards my drawers!

T.

[Ponyman]

I've decided not to get old myself! Parts of me may look older but parts of me are still 18 and that is quite alright with me! My problem is that time seems to be moving faster everyday! Remember how long it took for Christmas to get here and now it is over and back again before you can say "Merr... er Season's Greetings". But hey that is another rant... I think on both sides a little bit of consideration goes a long way and throw in some appreciation once in a while and how about a movie, a bed and breakfast and not demanding your eggs a certain way every morning or your laundry to just be washed and folded like magic... you moved outta mom's house for as reason! IT's a partnership both ways and if you start treating the other nice and being open and communicating you will find it does work! I won't say menopause or menstrating or a guys bad back should be an excuse to be crabby but there has to be some understnading there as well... think I used up my 2 cents! Have a great week!

Ponyman

[txanne63]

I've decided not to get old myself! *Parts of me may look older but parts of me are still 18 and that is quite alright with me! *My problem is that time seems to be moving faster everyday! *Remember how long it took for Christmas to get here and now it is over and back again before you can say "Merr... er Season's Greetings". *But hey that is another rant... I think on both sides a little bit of consideration goes a long way and throw in some appreciation once in a while and how about a movie, a bed and breakfast and not demanding your eggs a certain way every morning or your laundry to just be washed and folded like magic... you moved outta mom's house for as reason! *IT's a partnership both ways and if you start treating the other nice and being open and communicating you will find it does work! *I won't say menopause or menstrating or a guys bad back should be an excuse to be crabby but there has to be some understnading there as well... think I used up my 2 cents! *Have a great week!

Ponyman


You single?

Too much wisdom for a married man! ;D


annie

[opsrto]

Pony;
I couldn’t have said it better my self.

Hillbilly;
I can only offer you one word of advice.
Patience, understanding, love, honor, cherish, self control. All these things are not only a requirement, they are fun. Try to give your woman a nice romantic evening and then do not give into her advances. Se how long she allows that to continue. If the mood swings and “hateful Attitude” continue, there are things over the counter that can assist with softening the transition. Next time she asks how you want you eggs tell her “which ever way is easier". Or even better, Why don’t you fix her breakfast.

[NYCBOY]

Whats my hardest part ???? I can tell you whats " NOT " my hardest part !!!! lol I find myself even talkin [ actually beggin } to ' willy ', plz plz plz !!! If you do this for me one last time i promise i will never wear tight underpants again !!! lmao Actually all my clothes fit tight !!! Metabolism aint what it used to be !!! My wife is going through the ' changes ' as we speak.......she is going through exactly what everyone else went thru [ on this thread ], i like her better now !!!! lol dont ever tell her i said that !!!! Hope i made atleast one person smile !!!

[gypho]

Whats my hardest part ???? I can tell you whats " NOT " my hardest part !!!! lol

Go see your doctor NOW, if your wife is going through the changes... it'll help you both.... and I can recommend Viagara for that particular problem, but watch out, it tends to give some men a headache when a full dose is taken. Take half and see how that works. ;)

gypho

[txanne63]

Pony;
I couldn’t have said it better my self.

Hillbilly;
I can only offer you one word of advice.
Patience, understanding, love, honor, cherish, self control. All these things are not only a requirement, they are fun. Try to give your woman a nice romantic evening and then do not give into her advances. Se how long she allows that to continue. *If the mood swings and “hateful Attitude” continue, there are things over the counter that can assist with softening the transition. Next time she asks how you want you eggs tell her “which ever way is easier". Or even better, Why don’t you fix her breakfast.



annie >>>>swooning---a case of the vapors I do believe!

Such a man---ohhhhhh my godness! :-[

[HillbillyPapa]

Viagra is one thing I don't need. I think I have all those basis covered for now. She is the one which has slowed down from a creepy crawl (so to speak) =to an once in a blue moon (so to speak).
Alright since we are talking about this---- How often do you and your spouse has sexual activivities? Be truthful and we may find out some things about ourselves which we (we) need to know!
I am not talking about back when,,,, I am talking about right now (current). soooooos-----
I like sex every day,,, and my wife (and I do love her) = likes it about once every 2 weeks!
((((Now tell me,,,, If I have a legitament Complaint!)))
Variety (mostly) is =also out the window with her participation. Like she doesn't have a disire for that kindof stuff anymore or something.
Then,,,,, again,,,, maybe I am just getting Oldtimers(altimers) or something to that effect. Hey! Anytimer's would be better than not much of a Timer's , ehhh? ;)

[opsrto]

Hillbilly I can’t take part in that one. I haven’t been around for a few years and no this email did not originate from a federal corrections facility. :D
I can tell you one thing. Sex does not start 5 min before you climb aboard. It starts 10 min after you wake up in the morning. A womans arousal is a mental thing that dosent turn on like a light switch. Ya got to let it warm up like a diesel in Alaska in the winter time. Once it reaches operating tempature it will go all day long. This is one time when you cant think like a man. A smack on the but isnt a turn on for a woman. Ya may have to reach just a little deeper into your bag of tricks. Now I could probably give you some suggestions but that would get all the women my secrets and get me barred from here. ;D :o

[gypho]

Viagra is one thing I don't need. I think I have all those basis covered for now. She is the one which has slowed down from a creepy crawl (so to speak) =to an once in a blue moon (so to speak).
Alright since we are talking about this---- How often do you and your spouse has sexual activivities? Be truthful and we may find out some things about ourselves which we (we) need to know!
I am not talking about back when,,,, I am talking about right now (current). soooooos-----
I like sex every day,,, and my wife (and I do love her) = likes it about once every 2 weeks!
((((Now tell me,,,, If I have a legitament Complaint!)))
Variety (mostly) is =also out the window with her participation. Like she doesn't have a disire for that kindof stuff anymore or something.
Then,,,,, again,,,, maybe I am just getting Oldtimers(altimers) or something to that effect. Hey! Anytimer's would be better than not much of a Timer's , ehhh? ;)


Ho-kay!

Well, I guess I started this... so... HBPP, I find that most men have the same complaint that you do... not enough. Some of us (females) surprisingly have the same..... problems. I think sometimes that I got more testosterone than most of the men I work with. I got all the right equipment in all the right places to BE female, but my "drive" is stuck in OVERdrive.

The fact of the matter is, hubby just cannot keep up. >:( And while it might sound funny, I assure you, it is not. I know all about the frustration of being told "No". If that's not bad enough, he's gone every other two weeks to work, so availability is another-whole issue here. He even went to the Dr. and was given hormones (replacement therapy) PLUS Viagara... now he claims I'm trying to kill him. LOL

I hear women complaining all the time about their husbands who "won't leave them alone" or "give them a minute's peace"... what is WRONG with these women? Are they insane? Don't they understand, that some men, not ALL, but some..... well, if the cat doesn't get fed at home, and all that, y'know.

Anyway, this probably has not made a bean-hill's worth of sense, but that's where I'm at personally.

And Calvin... thank you for NOT sharing those secrets. I'm having a hard enough time as it is. ;)

gypho

[nancy1340]

*If the mood swings and “hateful Attitude” continue, there are things over the counter that can assist with softening the transition.

Yeah, the jewelery store counter . ;) ;)



just teasing. ::)

[Ponyman]

I believe there is a female viagra out on the market but I would try everything else before you would resort to drug therapy... The biggest sexual organ you have is the mind so maybe all you need is a vacation together where she is the most important person on the planet... I can't guarantee that if you start spoiling her things will change but I would bet odds on more appreciation sent her way would increase your frequency!

Yes I am single but not so sure I am looking if that makes any sense to you... maybe if the right person who intellectually stimulated me and was what I was looking for and actually took an interest in me came along then I would stop what I am doing long enough to give it a whirl but with my job, my daughter and my horses I have a pretty full boat most of the time.

As for the survey I think there should be no reason for it not to be an everyday thing but totally understand if it slid into a 3 to 4 times a week thing but I do know of people who only do it on a saturday and never have understood them... guess it is how you look at life... do you want to sit back and let it pass you by or do you want to grab it by the hips and take a ride!? Sometimes you have to do things you don't wanna do or are too tired to do just to let your partner know you care. Hey is my 2 cents up already... gotta go...

Ponyman

[DonnaKay]

I believe there is a female viagra out on the market but I would try everything else before you would resort to drug therapy... The biggest sexual organ you have is the mind so maybe all you need is a vacation together where she is the most important person on the planet... I can't guarantee that if you start spoiling her things will change but I would bet odds on more appreciation sent her way would increase your frequency!
Ponyman

Okay I'm gonna risk perhaps getting to personal and respond to this (against my better judgement.)

I'm gonna agree with ponyman here. I am still many years away from menapause but in the last two years have seen my sex drive plummet. I was really begining to think that I needed to get my hormones check out. For the first 7 or 8 years of our marriage I would say we averaged about 5 times a week (even when the kids were babies and yes I would initiate as often as hubby.) But in the last two years I could really careless, once a week would be fine with me. Hubby of course wants it more than ever(and I usually go along but do not initiate too often.) No marriage problems, we get along fine but hubby has been very busy the last couple years with work and school and so we haven't had much time together. Now I am not the kind of woman that needs flowers and poetry or jewelry, no candle light dinners or rose petals, actually my husband says I'm the most unromantic person in the world. What I do need is conversation and not during commercials or phone calls. I guess I'm a quality time kind of person. I'd like to really know that I would take more than a warm willing body to replace me. That my husband knows (and cares) what makes me, me. Well with the busy schedule there hasn't been much time available. Hubby's often too tired but of course he's NEVER too tired if you know what I mean. Now I know he loves me and he has tried to multi task and spend time with me while he golfs or does something else but sorry that does about as much for me as me reading a book during sex would do for him!

I didn't really realize how my need to spend time together was connected to my sex drive until we went on vacation in Spain. Usually when we go on vacation my husband wants to see every sight possible and it ends up being miserable. But this time he said we would just stay at the beach and relax. And we did and it was fun. There wasn't anything else to do so we laughed and talked mostly about nothing. We were at a topless beach so we spent alot of time talking about people's boobs. I would say "please tell me mine don't look like hers!" he would assure me they didn't and we'd laugh. We were there for 7 full days and had sex 11 times. He came in the room one evening and I was under the covers and he said in the most pitiful voice, "please tell me you have clothes on under there."

So anyway yeah try spending some time together for the sake of being together and maybe she'll actually want it more.

I do want to say that I don't think a wife should with hold from her husband or be manipulative to get her way. I do think that is wrong.

Donna~~who has said more than she should have
:-[

[nancy1340]

Donna , I think what you said was sweet. And yes you & your husband do need to make some time for each other.

[HillbillyPapa]

I think a lot of us men- feel like sex is not just a desire anymore,, but sortof falls into the catagory a of necessity (sortof). I don't know about most men but I can speak for myself on this one! If I don't get some pleasures at least a couple times a week, I feel like I am being neglected or cheated out of the best years of my life! My children are all raised,,, and supppppposed to be on their own, and stuff like that. We do have more time together than we have ever had. We go out and eat at the nicest places at least 3 or 4 times a week, and don't have to grub for a living anymore because of me being retired and such. I just don't get it sometimes! If this is supposed to be like a diesel- gotta give it plenty of time to warm up and such with most women ( then I must have fallen off of Mars or something) == cause this boy has been around in years past, and I just don't think that holds water!
I am not talking about 25--35 year older (women) , I am talking about 45-55 year old ones! When I was in my late 30s and early 40s I couldn't hardly keep up with the older ladies I met. ==== So, I am not completely in the dark on the subject!
Well, one thing I can say for older women; there are a whole lot of them like men. They know exactly what they are looking for in their partner. Nope,,,, no doubt in their minds what/how/when and stuff like that!

[gypho]

Well, one thing I can say for older women; there are a whole lot of them like men. They know exactly what they are looking for in their partner. Nope,,,, no doubt in their minds what/how/when and stuff like that!

I don't know what you consider "older" HBPP... but I'm in that group. Well said. ;D

gypho

[farmgirl]

Ponyman and Donna were absolutely right. I remember years ago Dobson had a book out called Sex Begins In the Kitchen. It's about what goes on outside the bedroom all day long to warm her up for what's going to go on in the bedroom at nite.

Like Calvin, I can't even comment or imagine a sex life right now.

Spencer and I were a lot like gypho where I was the one who wanted sex more frequently than Spencer. This is going to sound strange....we were usually a 3-4 times a week couple, but our marriage went in phases, and there were phases of everyday and sometimes twice a day.....the last 2 yrs. were like that. We were so madly in love and just could not seem to get enough of being together. It was like a honeymoon and I wonder if that was God giving us the best before he split us apart....

[MYellowRose]

Opsrto I like where you're coming from. Don't have anyone now, haven't had for many a year, but I still remember what it was like when I married. I was an army cook who worked rotating shifts, 4:30am to 11:30am one day and then 11:00am to about 7pm or 8pm the next day. Hubby had "regular" hours, something like 7:30am to 3 or 4pm Monday through Friday. Surprisingly enough we had sex often enough to keep the both of us happy. I was willing to try many things I was unfamiliar with, others I refused outright, and I think that was part of what kept our sex life going. I talked to many women who only wanted it "flat on their back with the lights out" as the old saying goes. Don't know if that has any bearing on this discussion but I thought I'd at least add my two cents here.

[new-attitude]

Well, when I was in my teens, sex was in the *once in a while catagory*, with my first husband (I married at 18 )after the first year I was damn lucky to get any off of him more than once a week. I looked elsewhere. With my second husband...3-4 times a week until he started driving a truck...which leads me to husband number 3.
Every day. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. And the first person to wake up usually woke up the other very affectionately (and orally) ::) . For ten years. Every day.
Only exceptions (which I can name!) 6 days when he was in jail, 3 days when I was in the hospital and 3 days when I was in jail (for a late library fine for pete's sake!). Thats it.
I am now going into my third year without him. It has been physically rough for me as well as emotionally.
I have had a couple of boyfriends since we split, but nobody could keep up with me...not even come close to keeping up with me!
I am 49...and my sex drive is as strong if not stronger than it was when I was 29!

[Hallo]

Calvin you hit the nail square on the head buddy !

In all sincerity; IT takes all day to make love to me. Kindness, affection, conversation, time together. No anxiety or unresolved disputes. I have something nice to say everyday and I enjoy the same in return. Kindness and nice words go a long way. Time together without distractions---

If there are old hurts you gots clean those up first - takes time but it's worth it.


...Secret delights hide behind garden walls . A private place where only the man with the key can enter ...

[HillbillyPapa]

One thing I was thinking about is this. Being nice is good to do, and a good pratice to keep toward each other. One thing people don't realize is this! Usually it is only one party which has to do (as the old saying went) all the Wining an Dining, and the other seems to be just along for the ride!
How can (take for instance) a man keep a woman all warmed up (if it takes hours, and sometimes the whole prior day) to do so= just for the pleasure of having some hot sex? ::) ??? That might work out fine every once in a while, but on a daily basis, it can get real old real fast!
Sex shouldn't be a Chore so to speak, or fall into anything in that catagory. What ever happened to spontanious incounters, which is either never happened in somes lives or they have lost somewhere along the way.
What's wrong with sex between you and your spouse- just because you want it, instead of because you think you deserve it?
I am not talking about being in question about whether or not you deserve it. I think that, if you have dedicated your lives together and such, and keep no secrets from one another (and have everything on the table so to speak)- why all the red tape?
Take for instance this=-=== a few years ago, when I had just gotten retired= my wife went to school for over a year (18 months) to learn to be a nurse.
After getting her license and that learning period was over - she went to work!
Not only - was our lives disrupted by all the book studying at night, but during the daytime hours at school, which put a strain on our relationship.
After she went to work it even got worse! After about 2 or 3 weeks of on the job (job), if you know what I mean-, she began to get so grouchy that she hardly spake to me when she came home. She would go straight to her bedroom and sack out (like she was mad at me) or something!
That really staged me for some hot sex, don't ya think.
I was doing all the cooking and cleaning, etc, except for the laundry (which I hate-and never attempted).
During all this----- my daughter and her 3 children moved in with us for a couple months===== and I had to do all the work for them also.
I mean, I had to get the children up for school, cook their breakfast and supper---- And I am not talking about easy fix stuff either. I made cornbread, fried potatoes,, and bisquits and gravy and stuff like that (even Pancakes).
Some of you ladies will know what I am talking about=- Never enough time- to keep all this stuff done. It's a 16 hour a day job at least!
But,, no,,, that didn't seem to help my situation in my sex life. (my dear wifey) I guess thought I owed that to her for her raising my/her children-while I was working before retirement!
I even went as far as having a battle thinking in my mind (she might have been having an affair at the time). But knowing her,,, I mean real good----- It was just the hatefulness coming out of her-------more later maybe----- :-X

[HillbillyPapa]

soo's, * *time passed by and we got less contact as the days went by. * *
* Some how or other I ended up in an affair, and that just about ruined my life completely. * *Not only was I unhappy and such, but I was an emotional wreck!
* Many times I had thought of what I could have done to change it, but I still don't have all the answers.
* After all,, how can ya snuggle up to an Aligator (when ya think your are gonna lose an arm or a leg, etc. *
* I think that Most (at least a lot of times) * peoples =-Hateful Attitudes-=== have caused a lot of good men/women to go bad and do the wrong stuff, and that has just not been aired out enough! ;)
I shouldn't have done what I did, I just wasn't stong enough to say no to it! A lot of people wouldn't give a hoot what they did, or how it turned out.
Some people are like talking to a wall or fencepost (when it comes to the others feelings)==== they let it go in one ear and out the other- and never (never) take any of the responsibility of the problems on themselves! It's always the other guys/gals fault (kindof thinking)! 8)

[DonnaKay]

How can (take for instance) a man keep a woman all warmed up (if it takes hours, and sometimes the whole prior day) to do so= just for the pleasure of having some hot sex? ::) ??? That might work out fine every once in a while, but on a daily basis, it can get real old real fast!
Sex shouldn't be a Chore so to speak, or fall into anything in that catagory. What ever happened to spontanious incounters, which is either never happened in somes lives or they have lost somewhere along the way.


okay Papa you do make some good points. And I have seen in my own family were one person seems to be on a mission to make the other person miserable. Nothing the other person does is good enough and every kind act is looked upon with suspicion. The one spouse seems to have a record sheet of every mistake (real and perceived) the other spouse has ever made and is making them pay for it every day. It's wrong but it does happen. Usually the person that does this is someone who takes other peoples short comings personally. Any mistake you make, or anything in your life that isn't perfect is seen by them as proof that you don't really love them. They never come out and say it though. Instead they let those hurt feelings harden them and make them bitter. They're just mean all the time and they don't even really know why. The people that love them the most are the ones that get the brunt of it.

So Papa I do believe that its possible that you are just telling it like it is...and if so I hope that things will get better for you.

On the other hand I would like to respond to the quote above. You point out that sex shouldn't be a chore. It seems you are resentful that your wife sees sex as a chore. (Don't blame you I would be very resentful if my husband felt that way) But have you ever thought that maybe your wife feels resentful because you think "wining and dining" her is a chore? You want your wife to WANT to have sex with you, not just to give in and do it but to WANT it! Likewise, we women want a man to WANT to spend time with us and do those special things with us. Not just give in and do it because he has to.

There was a time, no doubt, that your wife did not find sex a chore. And I bet that was also during the time that you did not find doing those special things with her a chore. Think back to it.....when you first met. You wanted to be around her all the time....couldn't get enough of just being in her company....and she probably couldn't get enough of you either. That was back when you had all those spontaneous encounters that you miss.

Papa, I'm glad that you and your wife stayed together even though you had an affair. I think that proves that you two do have a strong commitment to each other and deep down both of you love each other. And I think you are also right that in this situation both spouses have to take some responsibility for what happen.

Husbands and wives are suppose to do their part to keep their spouse from temptation (i know some folks are just no good cheating scum...i'm not talking about that) And that goes both ways. Just like your wife witholding sexual affection weakened you against temptation, A man not meeting a woman's emotional needs weakens her to temptation also. When a woman finds a man that meets those emotional needs you can bet sex will follow. I believe that just as many women have affairs as men do.

Just a thought...or two,
Donna

[NYCBOY]

Yo hillbillypappa, you make some valid points but i have trouble reading your posts with that turtle spinning around and around !!!! lol And Donna, 11 times in 7 days !!!!! You are a better man then I !!! I never actually counted....but im sure i never came [ came ] close !!! To tell u the truth, im pretty much a one time charlie.......and im happy with that, as long as my wife has multiples.....I get my pleasure seeing her pleasured, does that make sense ???

[gypho]

On the other hand I would like to respond to the quote above. You point out that sex shouldn't be a chore. It seems you are resentful that your wife sees sex as a chore. (Don't blame you I would be very resentful if my husband felt that way) But have you ever thought that maybe your wife feels resentful because you think "wining and dining" her is a chore? You want your wife to WANT to have sex with you, not just to give in and do it but to WANT it! Likewise, we women want a man to WANT to spend time with us and do those special things with us. Not just give in and do it because he has to.


Sorry, ya'll. I'm still agreeing with HBPP.... just want the sex. Just knowing that he still wants me after these years... and that I still want him... it's more than enough. Of course, I have more drive than most. ;)

He can be nice to me later. Gimme. ;D ;D ;D

gypho

[DonnaKay]

Sorry, ya'll. I'm still agreeing with HBPP.... just want the sex. Just knowing that he still wants me after these years... and that I still want him... it's more than enough. Of course, I have more drive than most. ;)

He can be nice to me later. Gimme. ;D ;D ;D

gypho


LOL....you are too funny gypho!!!

Donna

[gypho]

At least I'm honest. :o :o :o

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;)

gypho

[rickpaul]

well. to me the hardest part bout growing old is being alone, no one to come home to, no one to do anything for, the kids are grown an have their own lives an families to attend to. I put on a good front, would not want anyone feeling sorry for me, they probalby have problems enough of thier own, i try to keep busy an i still work, its just at night an when its stormy weather that i feel so alone. other than that, i guess life is o.k?......rick.

[Earth_Wanderess]

I am coming out of lurkdom finally.

I am 44 and think the hardest part of getting older is that I want to do more and feel like time is wasting away. Also waking up achy is not fun. As for the sex part of getting older, I found it gets better. I am more myself then I ever was. I am not trying to impress that studly dudly who has a hot body or trying to get someone's attention. I am fortunate to have a partner who is like-minded in many ways, and not like-minded enough to keep things interesting and exciting.

I have no plans to be sitting on my butt watching clouds go by when I am in my 60+ years. I did that stuff when I raised my children!

[txanne63]

well. to me the hardest part bout growing old is being alone, no one to come home to, no one to do anything for, the kids are grown an have their own lives an families to attend to. I put on a good front, would not want anyone feeling sorry for me, they probalby have problems enough of thier own, i try to keep busy an i still work, its just at night an when its stormy weather that i feel so alone. other than that, i guess life is o.k?......rick.


I can understand every word of that--- ;D

At sunset --when its coffee--days done time---

annie

[Ozarkguy]

.

"Whats your hardest part about getting old"


Yep. Getting older, but "it"s STILL my hardest part!



Ozarkguy ;D









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[grandmajoy]

What was once up, is down(boobs)
and
what was once down, is up(weight) :P :P :P

joy

[lost1]

:D :D ;DCheer-up everybody, I promise it'll get worse.

[gypho]

:D :D ;DCheer-up everybody, I promise it'll get worse.

If it gets worse, I'm gonna look into newer models.... >:(

he he he (just kiddin')

gypho

[MYellowRose]

POSSIBLE SPEW ALERT for Annie!

My mother always said that when she got old she wasn't going to an old folks home instead she was going to A YOUNG MEN'S HOME!

Can't say I blame her but she never got the chance as she passed away at age 50 in '78.

[catfish]

I would have to say the hardest part of getting older for me is this. I have this really weird mental disorder. And unfortunately its not life threatning. But it causes all sorts of physical problems. Its very complicated. Its already cost me my marriage and living in the country. So as I slide feet first kicking and screaming towards 50, thats what I have to look forward to for the next 30 or 40 years or so.
I don't mind being alone that much. I've always been a loner type. But not being able to work and every day being almost the same, well its enough to make me scream some days.
Now that I have depressed this whole thread. I do have some good news. Since '99 when the EX left I have lost 12 inches off my waistline and dropped 60 pounds, so its not all bad.
I just take it one day at a time. Never know what tommorrow may bring. And like Oral Roberts said "The roses will bloom again"
Thanks for the rant y'all

[gypho]

I would have to say the hardest part of getting older for me is this. I have this really weird mental disorder. And unfortunately its not life threatning. But it causes all sorts of physical problems. Its very complicated. Its already cost me my marriage and living in the country. So as I slide feet first kicking and screaming towards 50, thats what I have to look forward to for the next 30 or 40 years or so.
I don't mind being alone that much. I've always been a loner type. But not being able to work and every day being almost the same, well its enough to make me scream some days.
Now that I have depressed this whole thread. I do have some good news. Since '99 when the EX left I have lost 12 inches off my waistline and dropped 60 pounds, so its not all bad.
I just take it one day at a time. Never know what tommorrow may bring. And like Oral Roberts said "The roses will bloom again"
Thanks for the rant y'all
I think we ALL suffer some type of "weird mental disorder" whether we admit to it or not.... it's what makes each of us unique... a different person, totally, from everyone else.

That said, and I don't know much about you, but you sound like you're "gettin' it back together" pretty good.

And yes.......... "This too, shall pass..."

gypho

[catfish]

Thanks gypho, your a real peach. If they had an emote for roses I would put a dozen up here for you. Yeah life goes on. And we just have to keep sloggin on through the muck and the mud to reach our destination, what ever that may be. Well as a prior Marine thats how I view it at least. I'm at public computer, mine is in the shop and my time is almost up. Again thanks for kind words. ;D

[gypho]

Awww, you're welcome, and thanks yourself. Just the way I see it, nothing more.

gypho ;)

[Mary_a_Texan]

Tired of lurking so I decided to give this a try.

I'm 48 and the hardest part about getting old for me sure isn't less sex drive. I went for 20 years married to a man that didn't excite me much and now that I'm divorced I feel like I'm 20 years old in the sex department. My boyfriend is afraid I'll leave him because he can't keep up with me. He's 50 and asks frequently if I'm sure I don't want to find a younger man....now I don't know for sure if he wants me to do that very thing or not. I think I wear him out. He says his testosterone level doesn't keep up with what he wants to do. Is that a common problem? Are there shots for that? LOL He told me when we first met that he was addicted to sex, but I thought an addiction was something you had to have and did anything to get. I haven't seen evidence of that yet with him. I told him we should get along fine if that were the case. Still waiting........hoping......praying! :P

[Ponyman]

Maybe your boyfriend wasn't kidding?! Ask him if he wants to invite someone else as some men are attracted to that... it takes all the pressure off of them, momma is happy and it's cheaper then a night out on the town! lol If not maybe he should try the little blue pills or invest in some toys as it should be fun and playful... good luck!

Ponyman

[ellicat]

It can be a challenge to feel the decline of sexual desire after menopause, but it can be helped with bio identical hormones for women (and men). You can be really healthy, use some alternative supplements, but if your testorserone and estrogen level has dropped, desire and physical comfort will degenerate. It is not something everyone wants to do, but check out these books on the subject and then make up your own mind:
Ageless by Suzanne Somers
The Sexy Years by same
(co-authored by professionals in the field of anti aging and internal medicine)
Testoserone The Hormone of Desire by (cant remember, a woman doctor
It can make a huge difference in the quality of life, but of course, there are some risks. Being a risk taker, yep, I take them. Life is good.:) I am 56.

[daphodil]

These have been funny to read! Okay, I'm 37 and holding. The hardest part about getting older? Hmmmn, I think it's watching my loved ones up and die (I'm the youngest in a very 'old' family) I have lost many an Aunt and Uncle, cousins, my only Grandmother that I've known just passed away on x-mas Eve. I'm not close with my immediate family, so when they call it's often to tell me about who just croaked.

Furthermore, because I'm from an ancient family, divorce is the largest curse one can have; (yes, even moreso than murder) Thus, any news of divorce also merits a call. Death and Divorce: the hardest parts of getting old for me. I don't like hearing about either.

I think I can take aging okay: wrinkles, etc., (but I'll always feel young at heart :)

[independent]

The hardest part for me is not being able to do what I want. A car accident in 78 screwed up my back and knees. Being alone doesn't help either.

[WileyCoyote]

I'm 49 and I am so disgusted that my body does not keep up with me!!! I used to be able to work a 12-hour day in the hot sun and never feel a twinge, now two hours and it takes me two days to recover. I used to be able to eat anything and process it without even noticing, but now the fuel either doesn't burn at all or burns my belly. I used to say that any part of my body that didn't want to keep up would be cut out, and now here I sit with most of it cut out! LOL

I STILL haven't hit menopause and my daughter told me an hour ago that she must have inherited my sex drive from me. I usually say that if I don't get it at least every three days, I get testy. I don't understand women who don't enjoy sex; the hot sweaty stuff, the cuddly stuff, even the laughing and playful stuff. I raised our children to understand that sex was the only playtime adults got; and to enjoy it.

I've never been physically attractive - short and ugly and built like a fireplug - but I've always been invited to every party, because I make people laugh and think and argue and discuss and play too. Guys would take one look and think "no way!" and then when they looked again, would want to be a part of my circle. My hubby is my best friend from long ago - married 25 years this year and we still laugh and believe the same things, do the same things - and when we don't, we give each other the space we need to do other things.

Now if I could just live and work and play like I useta and not have all of this exhaustion wearing me down, I could do so much more! I want to be like the guy we met at the hot springs - he was 87 and plowed the driveways and walkways "for the elderly"!

[bookwormom]

wait another ten years.
things slow down and that is okay. I am thankful that I am still as good as I am. but I do not last as long as I used to, I plastered a wall this morning, sifting sand, mixing the mortar by hand, putting it on the wall (it will be exposed) and now at noon I am glad to be sitting down here at my computer. I feel my hands. I have to listen to my body, it lets me know if I do things contrary to what is good for me. I am sick for a day if I eat at burger king. I wish those power surges would let up. I have had them for years now. Why do we get them? you never get one when you are really freezing and could stand one.
as for later, I hope I have my grandmother's genes. I worked with her in the field when she was 75 and she was strong and walked 6 miles and we did not think a thing about it. But she could not be lonesome if she tried, all those kids and grandkids around, even when she died there were four people sitting at the table eating dinner and one son was sitting on the sofa with an arm around her. she was still healthy and died with an apron on at age 94. I think often about her, she was as old as I am now when I was born. Life was pulsing around her, she was the hob of our lives. I am on the edge someplace, with one grandkid an 18 hr. drive away. I have a computer to be in contact with other people. so I keep busy, have a lot of plans still. Often I think we ought to form a family size commune of like minded older folks. there are older women and maybe men who dream of country life and are stuck someplace. But husband is not interested, and I say, you have to do those things when you still can and not wait until it is too late.

[Txanne]

All its the hardest.

Living alone--sucks--of course I have free reigh with my life---but also noone to share it with---noone to talk over the great stuff---bad stuff--and noone to cook for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;D ;D

All I do is go to work--come home.

And when I was sick this winter--there was noone to sit by my bed or come see to me---that was a Scary felling to wake in the night--alone and very ill.

Oh well


annie

[AccuCast]

I guess I don't really find that there is a hard part to getting old, at 58 I really don't feel old. I can still do anything I could do at 20, my body just hurts a little more afterward.

As for living alone, I find that to be the best part. I was never very good at picking women.

I was very fortunate to never have fathered any children and I thank God everyday that I do not have children or grandchildren that will have to live in the world that will be our and their future.

I guess there is a part that is hard for me, I now realize that my generation is responsible for the condition our country is in, they were the Liberals and Marxists of the sixties that thought socialism was the best form of government, they were the first of the drug culture that has created the two genetically deranged generations that followed who now shoot each other in schools, they are the free love generation that saw no consequence to their actions because an abortion could correct any mistakes, they were the generation with no balls who find nothing worth fighting for, and then there is me, a Christian and a Conservative who didn't do enough to make things different.

[flatwater]

I will be turning 60 this month and we all think about getting older. My thoughts have been on the how much time do I have left If I have good health. Maybe 20 more active years? So I have stopped thinking in those terms and have started thinking about how can I Make a difference by helping someone with the time I have left. I have always liked that western song that has the line something like this.

I'm not as good as I once was but once I'm as good as I always was.
Flatwater

[edward_4576]

Not being considered for work because of your age. Yea, they say you can't discriminate but try getting a job after 50.

[Quietgentleman]

Having the pretty young ladies calling me sir. Sure lets the wind outa my sails when I'm slapped back to reality
and the knowledge that youth is wasted on the young.

QGM

[Txanne]

I will be turning 60 this month and we all think about getting older. My thoughts have been on the how much time do I have left If I have good health. Maybe 20 more active years? So I have stopped thinking in those terms and have started thinking about how can I *Make a difference by helping someone with the time I have left. I have always liked that western song that has the line something like this.

I'm not as good as I once was but once I'm as good as I always was.
Flatwater



My mind and heart still thinks I am young--but my body and my kids remind that I have lived a longggggg time.

Mind over matter---it I dont mind--it done matter--or some stupid saying.

I get anger at not being able to maintain---the long work days anymore--but i still get alot done.

Txanne

[JAK]

I'm 45. Mid life crisis sucks. Being older without getting old too fast is turning out to be a lot tougher than I thought. Where do I get the energy? The over 80 crowd must really be tough as nails, but we knew that already. It will be interesting just to see how well my generation takes it in comparison. LOL.

[JAK]

I've also gained more respect for people that are more overweight than I am, and people with serious health problems, which I have not. I'm not a complainer, but I know where I ache.

[Naughty_Pines]

I keep remembering what my first boss kept saying, "Save your money."

WHY didn't I heed his advice ?

[Poisian]

I don't notice anything different. I'm forty-three and I still notice all the hot girls walking around, and I still notice some of them noticing me. And I still get hot noticing them.

When I was thirty-eight, my girlfriend was twenty-four and she had no chance of keeping up with me.

There is a fifty-eight year old woman, a thirty-six year old woman, and a twenty-two year old woman where I work who are all noticing me. I am so cranked by all of them that I just can't believe it. I don't know which of them to ask out first. But, I don't mess around where I work (learned my lesson the hard way), so I just fantasize about them (sometimes all three of them at the same time).

I think that getting old is a state-of-mind. I don't believe in it.

[granolaeeter]

I can't honestly think of anything - life just keeps getting better and better.

I am just afraid that I will 'die young' (I'm 47) and miss out on the best that is yet to come.

Having gone down the road of hard knocks probably helped me appreciate my current situation much more than I would have otherwise.

[RangerRick]

Seeing the weeks and months and years flying by my very eyes and trying to catch them like a wisp of the wind - before I forget.

:(

Rick

[56farmerjohn]

::) ::)Hardest part about getting old, for me? Thats easy, all the kids at the community college, where I work. I tolerate them alot less, even though I realize that they are just kids and young and do alot of "dumb " things. I did much the same when I was there age ::)

[conundrum]

The things I used to do with ease physically now are much more tiring at 58. I am in good shape for my age, but the stamina is not what it was. And the weird aches and twinges!!
Living alone is okay, I guess. The realization that days are slipping on by is sobering, but that is the way of it. The ability to employ the "clarity of age" in viewing the world and events is most helpful, and certainly fascinating.

[Txanne]

The things I used to do with ease physically now are much more tiring at 58. I am in good shape for my age, but the stamina is not what it was. And the weird aches and twinges!!
Living alone is okay, I guess. The realization that days are slipping on by is sobering, but that is the way of it. The ability to employ the "clarity of age" in viewing the world and events is most helpful, and certainly fascinating.


Recovering from illness seems to take longer huh?

And just yesterday it was 2007---where did it go huh?

I find it very scary--if anyhting can scare me.

annie :-/

[flatwater]

I'm not as good as I once was but once I'm as good as I always was
Flatwater

[Txanne]

I'm not as good as I once was but once I'm as good as I always was
Flatwater


IF we can remember what we're good at--huh?

Or why we walked into the kitchen?

Txanne ;D

[humbug]

Realizing that your get up and go..got up and went somedays. ;D ;D

Watching time speed by and realizing that you are not getting younger.

Mid life is hard in some ways...you know that half your life is over, but are not always sure what you want for the rest of your life.

[Quietgentleman]

Looking back at missed opportunities I let go by. The one I most think back on was I had a chance in my early 20 to take a trick with a barge crew down the Mississippi and back to Iowa. Now that I look back on it I think I was being recruited by the captain. I'm not sure as I would of liked being a crew member on a barge but it would of been a unique experience I let slide by.

QGM

[Danielle]

My grandma just turned 90 last year and is still a steam roller. She has yet to even consider that she might be old beyond making a joke out of it. You wouldn't think she was over 70. She's always played hard, laughed hard, lived the way she wanted to live. If I've learned anything from her, it's to never give in to being "old".
It seems like there are two main groups of people in our society anymore- those who stay perpetual children as demonstrated by episodes of "Friends", and those who start huffing and puffing and sighing about being soooo old by the time they are 40.
I'd have to say that the hardest part of getting old is to watch the people around me who are in my age range giving up on learning new things and getting excited about life. I have little patience for not dreaming and working toward those dreams based on what they think their expected life expectancy is. What a waste!
Go Annie!

[stilltryinat50]

Amen to the "Too soon we get old, Too late we get smart" sister......wish I knew 30 years ago what I know now... :)

[flatwater]

The hard part of getting old is there are no parts that get hard , thats the crux of it. :o :o :o.
Flatwater

[sbemt456]

Live fast, love hard, die young and leave a long trail of happy memories.

Cause it better to be sorry for something you did than be sorry for something you didnt do.

At 45 I'm half done. Dam thats depressing.

stella

[Laverney]

I am looking 39 right in the face! Yikes, I remember thinking my mother was old at 36, she wasn't of course. I guess the hardest part about getting old is getting over any regrets from the past and start looking forward. I met a man 15 years ago in the firghter squadron we were both assigned to at Elmendorf AFB, Alaska, we were really good friends. We spent some time together in Italy while we were TDY (we never misbehaved, we were both married, just spent time talking) and then we went back to our lives when we came home. Two years ago, out of the blue I received an email from him, we are both now divorced and have enjoyed so much getting to know one another in ways we didn't all those years ago ::). We have often talked about how we missed out on so many years together, but I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason, he could never have handled me back then anyway ;). He is 9 years older than I. We plan to be married in March of 09 when he is home on leave from Iraq, and we are looking forward to whatever years we have with one another. Life is good naturally and if you live it, it is fantastic!

[kerryms]

Good for you Laverney! Gettin old I see it as another beginning. Being young you go through so many things. I'm at the age(47) the kids are grown with kids of there own and I feel like this is more new things to do. I have to learn new ways to do things, I'm not as fast as I used to be. I have learned to enjoy life not just live it. The hardest thing for me is watching the young kids today who don't have a clue of what's going on and knowing if you tried to help them they just want you to do it for them. Or just don't care.I guess our parents might have said the same thing about us but it seems like the coming generations will be in bigger trouble than we are now.

[swampyankee]

I used to feel sorry for those "old guys" who sounded like they were going to hack up a lung everytime they laughed, now I'm one of them :(

[patience]

Hard part? Watching the country I have known and loved all my life go to hell. At 63, I know how little influence I have to improve anything beyond my own life. And my energy level is a lot lower for meeting the challenges that I used to relish.

I don't mind my wrinkles and gray hair. I earned them all. It's the aches and pains, and taking longer to heal up that bother me. I still work every day in our farm repair shop business, but slower, and the heavy jobs are getting harder. Wife and I are on SS, but how long will that last? Don't have a lot to back that up, either. Self reliant living is our ace in the hole, as long as our health lasts.

[tomato204]

"Self reliant living is our ace in the hole, as long as our health lasts."
I second that. Really it's true for all of us, young and old, but you have to have lived for a good while before you realize it.

[offgridbob]

Old is only a state of mind , something like the state of confusion.