My mom has died...

[EarthMama]

I'd like to ask for prayers for the repose of the soul of my mom and also for me and my family, as we go forward without mom.

Mom lived with us for 7 years. We added-on to our home for her back in 2001 and I'd been helping her bathe and do other things that she was having a hard time doing for herself.

She became bed-bound 8 months ago and despite my 2 brothers and family doctor wanting to put mom into a nursing home, my hubby and I convinced them to let us take mom back home with us (after her 1 week stint in the hospital 8 months ago) so she could die the way I knew she wanted to.... in her own bed, here at the house.

She passed on October 6, 2008... in her own bed, on her own terms, without medical intervention. My hubby, 2 of my children and myself were with her, holding her hands and praying.... whispering to her that everything was going to be alright.

Mom was 90 years old. She had a good life.

But despite that, it's still hard to see her bedroom dark and no caregiving routine to implement anymore. :'( After caring for mom for all these years, especially in the intense way we had to for the last 8 months, it's almost as if we all have to redefine ourselves and our roles on the planet.

Difficult times... but these too shall pass.

Thank you~ EarthMama

[WRTN]

So sorry for your loss.

We will ALL have to depart this world one day and the way you made the departure for your mother could not have been done better. To be among beloved family and friends when the time comes is how it should be and what we all hope for when that time comes.

I am sure your mother's soul departed this world knowing how much she was loved and is at the beginnings of her new life in the next world.

God bless and prayer sent.

[EarthMama]

So sorry for your loss.

Thanks so much, WRTN! I really appreciate your kindness at this difficult time. Mom's been gone 1 week tonight and the house is feeling a little extra empty.


:'(

God bless~ EarthMama

[WRTN]

With 90 years she sure had a good run. I bet she had an interesting life living so long. I sure I hope I can make it to 90. Life is so precious, we never realize truly how precious life is until the time come to leave it. Your mother is in a far better place now and truly free at last. Keep her with you in spirit and be happy for her as she begins the rest of her life.

[B00kW0rm]

Dear EarthMama,

I am so very sorry for the pain you are experiencing right now. Losing a loved one is never easy. I would be honored to pray for you and your family.

Please don't feel as though you have to rush through this season of grief. The time will soon come when you can pass your Mom's room and relive memories of yester year's with smiles....instead of tears.

Keeping you close in my heart and prayers.

[EarthMama]

Dear EarthMama,

I am so very sorry for the pain you are experiencing right now. Losing a loved one is never easy. I would be honored to pray for you and your family.

Thank you ever so kindly, (((((((Bookworm))))))). Times heals all wounds... or at least helps them scab over nice and thick... but I know prayers help above all else. So thank you for those!

God bless~ EarthMama
XOXOXO

[EarthMama]

With 90 years she sure had a good run. I bet she had an interesting life living so long.

Oh yes, she did have one heck of an interesting life... talking about when her and dad were first married back in 1938 and how dad would drag out the big steel tub and put it in the kitchen, near the cookstore, for bathtime.... in their rented upstairs apartment that they lived in for many years before they saved up enough money for a down payment on their first house.

In fact, my dad went off to WWII and for entertainment, the guys used to play poker. Dad was good at poker so he'd win a lot. He used to send all his winnings home to my mom, telling her to buy a new dress for herself with the money. But little did dad know that mom always saved every penny dad sent home... and then by the time he got done with his stint in the war, they had enough for the down payment on their first home. :)

I watch the stock market and it may sound crazy but I kind of wish we'd have a good old-fashioned depression. I think our country would come out better people, at the end of it. At least that's my thinkin' anyhow.

Thanks again for your words of comfort.

God bless~ EarthMama
XOXOXO

[madmac]

Prayers sent your way from my family. I lost my mother last Feb. She was my best friend always. Time will heal all things and life will pick up were it left off. I can truly understand how hard it must be with your family giving so much care for her. Kinda empty now I am sure. Bless you and your family for bringing mom back home to spend her final days. What a wonderful thing you all have done. All my mother wanted was to return home but she never made it out of the hospital. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time, God Bless.

[EarthMama]

Prayers sent your way from my family. I lost my mother last Feb. She was my best friend always.

My deepest sympathies to you too, Madmac. Somehow we'll get through this, won't we. :-/

Thank you for your kind words of comfort and sympathy... in your own time of grief.

[Katrina-Sisu]

I'm praying for you and your family, I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom.

Kat

[EarthMama]

...I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom.

Thank you so much, Kat. It's the knowing that others are praying for us &/or keeping us in their thoughts that gets us through the rough spots in life, isn't it. I'm so grateful to those friends I've never met, who extend themselves with such thoughtfulness as to comfort someone they don't know, in their hour of need.

Nobody can tell me there's still not decent folks in the world.

Thanks alot, Kat, and everybody~ EarthMama
XOXOXO

[MYellowRose]

Sorry I'm so late here. You have my deepest sympathies in your loss. My mom's been gone almost 30 years, lost her the Sunday after Thanksgiving in 1978, my third loss that year.

[pcrowder]

I am sooooo sorry for your loss. I'll light a candle for her tonight.

[madmac]

EarthMama. It will get better. You will have days that are hard because you can't talk with her or hear her voice. It helps me to remember all the fun we had and the time we spent together. Thank God for giving you all the years together and the warm memories as well. I sometimes look at pictures I have on a CD and realize, mom was always smiling, laughing and enjoying life. She was sorrounded by family and for mom, life was good. God Bless you and your family in this most difficult time.

[sckat]

Six days from now it will be two years since my Mom graduated this life. She had lived with us and we too had built to accommodate her but a older wiser sister objected so Mom lived her last few years alone in a different house. Cruel.
Her last physical action was either getting back in bed or getting out. I think she was rising up to met her Saviour whom she loved. I have more to go to Heaven for than I use to.

You only miss what was important to you.

God Bless you in your loss.

[pcrowder]

I will light a candle for your mom, and pray for her. You were so lucky to have had her for such a long time. She's not really gone - she's a guardian angel now.

[jim]

Prayer sent.

[mtwildflower]

Thinking about you and yours as you enter the holidays without your mom.

((((((HUGS)))))

[EarthMama]

Thanks again to one and all for the prayers, candles, good thoughts and well wishes.

We managed to get through the holiday without too many tears. It seemed so strange to not have Mama here though, as she has been, celebrating Christmas with us. :-/ :'(

But that's the way life is and there's no changing it. Just have to let the grief have its way with us and then we gotta move along.

It's the friends like you all that help us to dry our tears in this life and to pick ourselves up so we can indeed do the movin' along, isn't it?!

God bless you all.

[madmac]

I know it's hard this time of year more than any other time. Maybe this will help. Your family will get through this a little better by sitting down and sharing all the good times you had with her. Maybe something special each of you remember most or a funny moment that others may not know about or maybe even relate to. You all were blessed to have her in your lives so put a fire under those good times and keep the memory of her alive, in a good way. My own mother had so many funny ways that when we get together and share them we all laugh till tears roll from our eyes. We sit and share memories, pictures and before long we are all happy to have known such a beautiful person so full of love for each and everyone of us. I am sure she is looking down on us and probably laughing as well. I also bet she is glad to have share so many years here on earth with us as well. God Bless you and yours. Mac