Living situation

[ryanmercer]

I currently live with my mother and my older brother... things here aren't all that great, especially since my brother moved back in. I really need to move out, but at present my financial situation wont' allow for it. (things are verbally abusive around here and are getting worse every day). If you could all keep me in your thoughts and prayers that I soon find the means to get out of this house, I"d greatly appreciate it.

[DV8]

Ryan, Bro, I know you're young, @ 21 & I will keep you in my thoughts, but maybe you need to just go out & make your own way.

I Know that's a scary thought, and to just jump out there unprepared would be foolish, but let's look at just how prepared you may be, & not even realize it.

You obviously have a Good education, as you type & Speak well. You are old enough to work. You have people who care for you & will support you Morally (like Mom).

you have computer skills obviously. The pc is a Great resource for finding many things someone starting out on their own needs, like you can search out & apply for Work, Housing, Grants for school, etc.. And let's not forget about public assistance. when you are first starting out public assistance can be of much help to get you on your feet. once there, you can begin to do it on your own, but let's focus on your initial need to get started, & possibly soon.

Do you have any Money saved ? Do you Have a current Job (if not, that's probably alot of the problems at home)

If you aren't disabled, then that should be your primary focus, obtaining enough cash to begin life on your own.

I know it seems expensive, but you'll be suprised how things will just fall into place. Maybe renting a room in anothers home is more feasable for you. Many places, especially around universities, rent single rooms, or a group of people will all share a house.

Living with friends is better than being in a bad situation, however, remember, Don't burn your bridges so to speak at home, be sure you can fall back there if need be, as your brother seems to have done.

I think once you do get out on your own, you'll feel much better about yourself, & your Mom will be Proud at you, when you do as we know you will, succeede.

Good Luck to you,

~DV8

[DV8]

I'm sorry. I saw this thread by viewing the 50 newest posts, it didn't then show it to be in prayer requests forum.

I Will say, I said a silent prayer for you before I typed my origonal answer to you. And I wish you well. Remember my Advise.

Alot of times the answer to our prayers has already been given us, yet we fail to realize we have it.

PeAcE
~DV8

[ryanmercer]

I'm sorry. I saw this thread by viewing the 50 newest posts, it didn't then show it to be in prayer requests forum.

I Will say, I said a silent prayer for you before I typed my origonal answer to you. And I wish you well. Remember my Advise.

Alot of times the answer to our prayers has already been given us, yet we fail to realize we have it.

PeAcE
~DV8


:)

Also, I do work, it's just debts such as student loans and other things currently prevent me from moving out. I spent 13 weeks unemployed in 06 and took about an 8k$ paycut as well. Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts :)

[MYellowRose]

Check with the nearest homeless shelter or the like. Ours here has a self-sufficiency program where they will put you up as long as you work and contribute something. I don't know all the details but if your town/ city has something similar it might help. You might have to move out of your mom's and stay in the shelter for a time before moving to such a program but it should be possible. Since you're already working it shows you are at least trying.

[daphodil]

Will pray for you, too. I went through a lot when I was 21 and faced similar things. . . We don't choose our family, but we can try to choose healthier paths. :)

[Terri]

Might I suggest something?

Spare enough money from your debt-paying to start a savings account.

Once you have enough for a tiny studio apartment, you will no longer feel trapped because you COULD leave if you WANTED to! You will not HAVE to put up with it!

[ryanmercer]

Cheapest apartments around here are about 450 a month, with 12-24 months required on paper... but I do have a good savings going :)

[ryanmercer]

Alright, I found a place to live, 450 a month utilities included... only problem, I can't afford that due to debt payments. If I can come up with about 4k$ I can wipe out good portions of 2 of the debts, thus reducing my payments enough that I can probably afford to move out of this place. Things just keep getting worse here but at least I have a place to go now as long as I can figure out the money. Just thought I'd keep everyone updated.

[nancy1340]

Thanks. I was wondering how you were doing. Sorry you have so much to overcome to be able to get your own place.

[Txanne]

Ryan,

I had to regroup---lost my home---and I too know what it is too be at the mercy of others--even if it is by our own hands---

I pray that things come to you---fall in to place--- and wow you have an education--thats a blessing.

Prayers for your wisdom.

Txanne

[ryanmercer]

Thanks for the comments :)