pray for the love of my life

[Southerngirl]

I have been praying for God to find a way to get through to my husband to realize what he has in life and just live and be happy. To put his wife and children first, before all of his friends. To realize that everything a man could ever want is right here waiting for him.

Without getting into a "story", I'm tired emotionally and physically and need your help. I believe so much in the power of prayer, but I also believe in the strength of prayer in numbers. I wouldn't come here and ask if I didn't think I was about to lose my partner, my love, my best friend to the darkest side of his life that he will ever face, when he walks away from his family.
I have two beautiful young children that love their daddy very much, and a loyal loving wife here waiting for him to "see the light". I have realized, through reading and praying that there is only so much I can do or have any control over and I have to let God do His work through my husband. It's not my fault if it doesn't work out, but I will know I exhausted every ounce of effort, breathe, life that I have to make this work and get the love of my life to see what he has right here at home, right here in front of him before it's too late.

I know there are SO MANY things going on in the world right now that are more important than this small request, but please take a moment to pray for our family, the hope that we will remain a family, and that my husband will open up to God and let Him into his life and see what he has before him.

Thank you friends,
Southerngirl

[Anon001]

Southerngirl, you know you will have a lot of people praying for you. But... also keep in mind that it not only takes two to make a relationship work but it also takes two to destroy it.... usually. My prayers are with you. I know it is difficult and draining emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Keep your chin up and just show him what he has at home.

[AzLoneRider]

Southerngirl,
You have my and my wife's prayer. Hang in there and keep showing your husband love.

[momma_to_seven_chi]

Southerngirl--
Do you have an older lady near you that could counsel you with this? The bible says that the older women are to teach the younger women to be chaste, discrete keepers at home, to love their husband and their children. If you had a trusted more experienced lady to support you and pray with you, you would feel a lot better than having strangers on the web praying. You need day-to-day advice and a friend to listen to your fears and frustrations and to counsel you.
Your family is young. Life is full of experiences and challenges that others have gone through before you. A trusted friend (maybe a pastor's wife) would help.
Men tend to be more insecure and even softer-hearted than women. Maybe the expression "emotionally weaker" would be better? They sometimes become fearful and feel like they are failing. That can come out in various ways. Frustration and feeling like life has no future in their job can come out in snappishness. Feeling that their wives think they are failures can come out in them staying away from home. They don't talk out their emotions like women do, so it comes out in other ways. But many of their actions are coming from fear of failing, not indifference. They just can't put that into words as easily as women can.
It isn't that they don't care. It's that they feel futility in trying to succeed because they feel like nothing they do is good enough. (such is the main weakness of men)
Try to find the root of "why" your husband stays away from home? Does he feel unwelcome? Does he feel that nothing he does is good enough to please you? Does he feel futility in finances? futility in his job or life? It would be more likely that there is an underlying issue, not that he doesn't care about you. I'm sure he love you and your family very much.
I will pray for your family. But please find someone close to your geographical area to talk with and counsel you. Many times when women change their own outlooks and behaviors, it can help their husbands feel more wanted and more successful. If you husband feels like he is "SUPERMAN" at home, highly adored, and successful, he will be more at peace with being at home. If you work as a team in child rearing where he is seen with great respect, he might feel more at ease in being with the girls.
I can't explain it very well, but I see it often. If men feel neutered in a relationship they run in fear. If they feel successful, adored and respected they run to that woman that makes them feel that way. They have vulnerable egos that constantly need to be petted because deep down they are insecure. They may be stronger in muscle, but in heart they are vulnerable. They feel the need to protect and provide. And that is a difficult job these days. Often they just feel like they are failing in some way, so they avoid the situation rather than dealing with it.

[Grizzy]

Hey Southern Girl :)
First of all.. Bearhugs to You and to your sweet babies... I truly wish we could spend a day just playing and enjoying some goodness with the windas open and cool fresh air blow'n in and wide open sunshine, slurp'n some good hot coffee and baking cookies with the kids.. a time of refreshment.. Dang how we all need this sometimes... just Friendship. So this I bring first to you...

I don't know how we live these lives, Sugar, I really don't because rarely are we in agreement with one another for the things that count the most. It takes that.. hold'n on tight and not letting anything come between two hearts. I think what starts it all is that we form a bond with someone we are similar to but not the same with... and that just keeps morphing to that place where we are not even alike anymore. But that does not have to be the end of the story.

We can see a sidetrack... and after alot of tears and faith, we can find that our Heart is returned to us. You're right, you see, it's dark and scary out there. Perhaps a lil of that and your Sweet Man WILL realize what he left behind and run back Home. At that point (God is merciful) you can truly come to understand one another and communicate more clearly your needs and desires. When we are so young who can do this thing? We just want everything... our way... and right now! We're such selfish creatures at times... Then we wake up one day unhappy and wonder why. It used to be that we just worked through whatever was hard and fixed it. Not anymore, buddy. This is a disposable society anymore. Throw away marriages, gramma, our children, good jobs, our God, anything that is valuable because we are sooooo ambitious, so greedy.

You know, it is certain that your family is tucked in many hearts as a result of your post. I believe this thing. And I want to leave you with this... I used to say that fixing my marriage was the only prayer God did not answer. It was the only need He did not meet for me, and yet I knew that He always carried me through and gave me the strength and tools I needed to endure. But that marriage was something that man made, not God made. It was not God who failed, but man who was unable to break through to unconditional love and forgiveness. It was man who did not desire something beautiful enough to achieve it... We have all seen healed marriages. We have seen many fail. No one knows what God is working in Your life... so we have that sweet Hope for goodness. And God IS worthy of our hope... He should in fact BE our hope in this life...

In order not to let this thing take EVERYthing out of you.. Look down the road and see the possible ways this can play out. Are you willing to wait until your man finds himself? That could take a lot of time. Do you love him enough to recieve him back without judgement.. Can you love him unconditionally? If God decides to heal this relationship, bear in mind He is very creative and it doesn't always go the way we would have written the story.. But it is absolutely possible that your Love can see that he is at the precipice of falling off the map, turning back with a much appreciated Happy Ending, too.

My marriage failed and I thought I would die. I left. We were not the same and my love was just not good enough. I figured that was the end of things. Seven years later.. Do you Know how long seven years is?? It's felt like another lifetime... Seven years later God brought someone into my life who has brought the healing and Love I searched for and tried to create by example with my husband for sooooo long. I had totally given up and was content to live honorably, although alone. This is why I tell you to allow God to be creative in your lives. Sometimes His way is beyond our understanding, but it is also beyond our dreams in Goodness...

A few years back I prayed, Father.. show me who You are. Southern, God did a mracle in my life, He brought to me the other half of my heart. He has loved me well.. He is in these words and in this day and guiding your life... It is hard to trust, but when you get ahold of God, you realize that the big hand of God we hold is the only one true thing that ever really mattered...

I'm too long winded anymore.. I'm sorry to preach. But girl, I lived what you are living.. the pain, the fear and the hope. I'm sharing with you what led to my happy ending, and I'm sharing Bearhugz... heart to heart.

~Grizzy~

[flatwater]

We are praying for your whole family

[Southerngirl]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers.
I am sorry if I have offended anyone by coming here and being so "personal" but no, I don't have an older woman (that I trust) to talk to about this at home. My mom, is wonderful and gives wonderful heart felt advice, but also has the outlook of a mother not wanting her daughter to be hurt so doesn't always see the side that I want to make this work, she thinks it's just easier to tell him how it is and walk away. That's not what I want.
The other older woman in my life that I know, they are HIS family, and I don't discuss our marriage with them.
He DOES love me and the kids, that I am sure of. But the problem is he does not have the drive to help me work on the farm, he works away from home 8 days, then home 7 days and so forth..... when he is home all he wants to do is "tinker" on things that don't have to be fixed, have friends over to eat/drink all the time, which starts at 7am and ends around 1-2am the next morning.
I NEED my husband here and willing to help me on this small farm. I can't do all the work with 2 young children. I try, but there's some things I physically can't do alone. I don't have the mechanical skills to fix the tractor, ect.
He is loyal to us and loves us I know. But things like making sure my vehicle that carries his children is safe, he doesn't do. His friends and him will sit and watch me and the kids work while they sit and visit or go fishing, ect.
He works hard while he is at work, provides for what we need, his heart is VERY big and he helps everyone that he knows, but doesn't put his family first like he should.
So maybe that will explain things a little more.
I may NOT know any of you personally, but sometimes meeting people this way may be God's work as well, maybe there is someone out there that I am suppose to meet that can help me through this, maybe God will send me that person through here, who knows. But it's worth a try.
The reason I put it here, I believe in prayer in numbers.... I believe in going to all lengths of trying my best to make this work. I'm not giving up at all and DO NOT believe in divorce, that is why I'm still here after 8 years of physical abuse, and we are past that part of our life, so I stuck through it and now we are on the better side of things through that problem. I just have to get him out of this "rut" he is in.
I praise him constantly and thank him for the smallest of jobs that he does. Call him while he's at work and tell him how much I appreciate him supporting us and working so hard. I do as much of the work here at home so when he comes home from working away from home there isn't as much for him to do, but some things I just can't do alone, like fix the tractor or vehicle.
So sorry for being long winded, just thought I would explain my situation a little better. Some woman believe in the old way of "keeping your business at home" and that I understand but for some that just is not possible. But I'm very happy for you that you can do that and have the support you need. Maybe you could say a little prayer for me that I will find that same support. Thank you in advance,
Southerngirl

[jen_in_southtexas]

I am so sorry to hear about what you and your kids are going through. But ma'am, it is his job as a husband and father to work hard and support your family. You should not have to praise him constantly as a way of reinforcing your love for him. He knows you will continue to praise him and that is enough for him to not fulfill his duty...almost like he is king and you a servant. I do not tolerate any kind of abuse whether verbal, physical or emotional. Once they have demonstrated any kind of abuse the respect is long gone and it is time to move on.
Look, I am not blowing smoke. I would love for ANY relationships to work out because God wants us to be happy not sad or to live in fear. I was in an 8yr relationship that I tried to make work but it takes two people and you cant and wont change a person. I pray for the safety and comfort for your family and that God meet your daily needs. Sometimes when things dont work out its because God has something better in mind. He certainly doesnt want to see us deprived of the kind of life He wants us to live. Yes, its hard to see it right now but time really does heal wounds.

God Bless,
jen

[Southerngirl]

Thank you Jen, I appreciate that :)
Tonight talking to him on the phone he has been a lot sweeter, asking about the kids more, how things are going around the farm, so I already think the prayers are helping. Like I said, some people have different believes, I believe in the power of prayer... :)
Thank you for all of your time and praying for our family, I'll return the favor by checking out other prayer request on here...
Southerngirl

[Southerngirl]

Again tonight things were good over the phone, had another heartfelt conversation about things that need to change, like handing out too much money to friends/family, taking care of ourselves a little more, paying our bills like we should, ect.
It was a good talk.
Some people think you need more than prayer and the power of God to make things work, I don't. I believe having faith IS enough. But we all see things differently.
And that is ok.
All I know, a few days ago, he was a different person I wasn't sure I liked anymore, and within days of spreading my prayer request, things are turning around. And he has no idea I did this.
An old high school classmate became a preacher and just got back from church camp where he prayed for us with all the members, with several hundred members, and well..... faith has pulled me through these hard times and so has prayer.
To me that isn't a coincidence.
So thank you everyone for thinking of us, I think we'll be ok.
He'll be home tomorrow night and we'll see how things go.
Again, so sorry for being personal but I wanted to share that with my friends on here.
Southerngirl

[sissy]

Hi Southerngirl;
I don't know if this is for you or someone else reading your post. I just know it's been on my heart since you first posted your request.
The best advice I ever received on praying for my husband was from a book that God showed me. I was praying for God to change my husband, so we could get along better. God showed me through this book that instead of praying for Him to change my husband, I should pray for Him to change me to except & to deal with my husband the way his was. And to let God deal with my husband in His time frame not mine.
Sometimes we have a hard time dealing with things we can't get done in our time frame. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask for prayer for your husband, you should. God does & will answer our prayers. My husband & I have been together for 31 years. Prayer is what got us through & keeps us going. ( Sorry got a little long winded.)
Anyway the book is THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian (great book). May God be with you & completely heal your marriage, in Jesus name Amen.
Sissy

[Southerngirl]

Sissy,
Yes, I have read it and agree.... I have gone back and read it over and over when I feel I have slipped on what God wants me to do in this marriage.
And it is right, is not my place to change or want to change my husband but to ask God to help me deal with the way things are and keep praying that things will get better in the areas that need help.
Whatever it was, it's working. He came home last night and is more considerate and loving than he's been in a long time. He's spending today doing "have to" jobs around the farm, like fixing our water line so we have water, been out for 4 days.
So though I can not explain exactly WHAT helped, something did and that is all that matters.
Thanks all for your help, I think this sums up this prayer request, please spend your time on someone else in need on here :)
Southerngirl

[Katrina-Sisu]

Praying!

Kat

[MIKENSUE]

The number one thing you have to think of, is what you are doing TO the children rather than FOR the children. If you are not happy, and he is not happy they know it whether you think they are old enough to understand or not.
You said that he is in a rut, that is merely a grave with the ends knocked out. Why do you think he is placing himself there? Is it because he does not know God? Is it because he does not know that Jeasus is Our savior? Do you need to find a Man of strength and God to talk to him rather than a woman to confide in?
There are some situations you work with, and some you walk away from no matter how it hurts. It takes wisdom and Kahunas to know when you should do the former or the latter.
I've seen one man in his grave for abusing me, another almost there, and regret no part of the life experience. Change is hard for anyone, but change CAN be good!

Sue

[Anon001]

Southerngirl, I hope you don't take offense. We have PM'd in the past and I think you know I mean well... But, why do women always marry a man and then want him to change? It sounds to me that the farm is not his priority. It sounds like his priorities are his job to support you and the children. Then when he has his days off, he wants to do like most people... he wants to enjoy them and not be "forced" or "coerced" into working with things he doesn't consider a priority (such as the farm). However, I will agree that he should make sure the home is maintained and the vehicles mechanically sound as a security issue if nothing else.

I seem to remember that when you first started posting you said he didn't share your enthusiasm for being self-reliant. If he doesn't, that's okay. Just let him be who he is if he is providing for, and taking care of, his family.

As to your point about God taking care of it. I believe man is a free-will agent and I believe God does nothing to interfere with that.

I hope you and your husband can work through this. If you were able to work through abuse together, then you should be able to work through anything.

Should our prayers be to have him change or should our prayers be for you to realize that you are two different individuals with different world views?.... or both?

I have kept you in my prayers. But I have prayed that you both have the sight and the wisdom to work through to an understanding that will make you both happy..... I hope that you can.

I have to agree with Jen that abuse of any type is not acceptable. But more than that, I have to admire you and your husband for working through it instead of you leaving and splitting your family. It appears that he did change and stop the abuse. That in itself is a rarity and one that I'm sure you thank God for, daily.

I will pray that you both have the strength to see through this and to come to an understanding... and understanding that neither of you have to necessarily change but that you can both have what is important and still keep the family first as a priority.

Your husband is a guy. Guys have to have their guy time with their buddies just like women need time with their girlfriends. But, both have to know when to draw the line. Just don't expect him to stop his guy time and him be a happy man. Maybe you can talk to him about putting limits on it or something.

I apologize for this being so long. But it looks to me like you both need to do some changing and not just your husband. Don't force him to make the farm a priority. Don't try to force him into wanting self-reliance. It isn't for everyone. We have a number of couples on here that are split on the issue of self-reliance and that's okay, not ideal, but okay.

Also realize that men don't see a need to continually verbalize emotions or continue to rehash a problem. We men never understand why the women keep bringin up an issue time and time again.... We think it got worked out but the woman doesn't think so. That's just the way we are wired differently. A man will respond more to your attention and affection than anything else.

One more thing. You say you have no older women around to talk to? Maybe you should get "counseling" from your pastor's wife or an elder's wife that you trust not to gossip. or from the pastor himself? Just a thought. But, I agree with an earlier poster. You definitely need an older woman to talk to about this. After all, the aposte Paul says it is the job of the older women to teach the younger. So, if I was you, I would seek out an older woman in your congregation that you trust. Call her. Talk to her. Most of them would be happy to listen and help.

My prayers are certainly with you and I know you are decent folk from our past PM's. God be with you both. I think all of us here care about you and your well being.

Paul

[Terri]

You sound like you married my husband! LOL!

We have been happily married for 34 years: can an older woman give you advice?

Drop the farm thing. Really. perhaps he THOUGHT he wanted to farm but I do believe he has changed his mind.

Instead, can you set things up so you CAN do the work while he sits and watches TV with the kids? If the tractor is too much work for you to repair, then, DON'T!

Hire your land to be put into hay, and sell it on shares. The guy who cuts it gets half. In that manner the land is cared for and your hubby is off the hook. So are you.

My garden is MUCH! smaller than I would like it to be, but, DH is not a gardener. I have come to accept this. So, the garden is what *I* can tend to without his help. You cannot make another adult do anything, so I let this go.

He sits while you and the kids work? It is *NOT* fair, but it is the American custom. A womans work is never done. My DH does this also, and so do many of his friends. I could not change this so I let it go. Just let it go.

He eats and drinks with his friends until 2 AM? Not very often, I hope!!!!!!!!!! That is NOT good! Hanging out with his friends and being a host os a great idea for BOTH of you, but, did you mean to make it sound like they get tipsy? I would object to THAT!!!!!!!!!! BIG time!

We have given money to his family on occasion, but, we talked about it first. That makes the budget work so MUCH! Better!

Southergirl, I sort of knew what I was getting into. We met at college in California. I was studying Animal Science and he was studying---wait for it---CITY AND REGIONAL PLANNING! He would have been happy with a rented loft apartment, but, for love of me he moved to Kansas where the land was affordable. And, he was willing to work on our place......until he started sweating a lot.... and he realized that he really did not want to after all.

He is a very hard working man as long as a desk is involved. But, his involvment in our place has dropped down to twice a year me saying "This is too heavy for me, can you please move this?". 30 seconds later he is done.

I picked him, and I would pick him again. He is just wonderfull. Not a FARMER, no, and I must accept that he never will be! But a wonderfull man anyways. He earns the living and sinc eI no longer work I run the little homestead. We have 1 acre here and 5 acres a bit farther out.

It does have SOME perks! While we DO talk over major things, if it has to do with outside work I usually have the final say as I am now the expert. I choose what trees to buy and where to put them. I deicde on the landscaping and how many chickens we should have. I am able to follow my inner vision. So it is a trade off: I so the outside work but I get a mostly free hand!

Prayers said, by the way, that God will place his hand on you, your husband, and those that you care about!

[TNDadx4]

Southerngirl - Our prayers are with you and your family during this rough time. I pray that God strengthens your family and draws you closer together and closer to Him in love.

[jim]

Prayer sent.

[Anon001]

Hey Southerngirl,

It's been 2 weeks since you posted about this. Are things improving? I have been keeping y'all in my prayers and keep hoping for the best.

Paul

[randallhilton]

Southerngirl,
Today's culture leads boys to become older boys - not to become men. That's a lot to overcome. Think about how hard it is for you to change things about yourself, even when you are highly motivated to do so. Now think about how hard it would be for you to change something about yourself when someone else is the one that desires the change. That's what you're up against.

As far as husband/wife role goes - we often hear about the Ephesians 5 passage about wives submitting to husbands but not so much about the part where husbands husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church . . . oh. . .by the way. . . that love entailed His giving up His life for His bride. That puts a lot more onus on us guys than most of us want to accept.

I don't think it's your job to help him figure that out, it's the job of Godly men in his life so I shall pray that he finds some Godly men whom he will respect and who will steer him in the right direction.

I will also pray that you learn to trust our Almighty Provider to take care of you when the man in your life prefers to be a boy. Trust is hard!

[Southerngirl]

Yes, things have gotten better, thank you.
Please send prayers where they are needed on the other posts on this site, thanks so much for all of your concerns.
I see we both have to make some changes and we are both doing so. Thank you everyone for your advice and friendship. I am sorry if I offended anyone by coming here to talk about this. I just thought this was a good place since there were "like minded" people here. I loved all the advice from everyone. I'll try to find an older woman (I do have my mom), to talk to about future issues.
Thanks
Southerngirl

[Anon001]

Southerngirl,

Don't apologize about offending anyone here with this. You came to 'like minded' people for advice. If you know anything about the people here, you know that you will hear both sides of the advice and you know we will be honest... sometimes brutally honest....

One other piece of advice. When you need advice from an older woman, NEVER go to your mother. Seek out another older woman... either from church, the pastor's wife or someone, but you should never go to your mother about your marital problems just as he should never go to his parents about the same problems. I've seen that done too many times and it never ends well.

I'm glad things are getting better.

Good luck...
Paul

[flatwater]

paul is right on with that advice , parents may mean well but they will side with their kid , right or wrong , almost every time.

[Terri]

Yes, family members are, alas, biased.

They might also hold a grudge against your spouse.

Come here ANY time to vent! REALLY!

I am glad to hear that the two of you are doing better and talking more! That is a good place to be!

[Southerngirl]

I agree, I only talk to my mom about "some" things but never about things that would allow the opportunity to have hard feelings against my husband.
And to answer a few questions through this post, I had to think about how to word this, when it was brought up about me wanting to change my husband, I NEVER want to change my husband, but when we married, I was 19 he was 21.... so even back then I knew "expected" that in some ways we both would mature in many issues. That is the only point I am getting at, there's just a time in life when everyone has to be more mature, grow up, and be responsible for your family (kids), or don't raise a family.
I am very supportive of my husband, I praise him for working so hard to support the kids and I, allowing me to stay home to raise our children so no one else has to raise them through daycare. I am also the type of wife that all his friends love. I order the pay per view fights, I cook when all the guys come out, I watch the other guy's kids when their wives are working so they can come out and do things with my husband, go fishing, work around the farm, or just sit out here and relax. So I'm very "there" for him and his friend time. But what needed improvement and more of his attention was us.
Things are much better now, he is helping me fix things around the house, I don't pressure him, if you knew him you would know that it's not me "putting this" on him, he sees the mistakes he's made and realizes our life could be so much better if he would fix things around the house, he bought me a newer car that is dependable so I can get my daughter to school this year safely.
As far as the older woman to talk to, well I don't attend a church around here, we have a group of us that sit and talk about God and His ways quite often, but I don't talk about my marital issues with our friends/family's wives. That has started problems in the past and I just won't do that. So maybe coming here was what I was looking for, someone with previous experiences like mine.
Some people may not believe in prayer as much as I do, that it can change your life (because that is what I believe) but within that prayer between me and God I also ask for the strength to see the right path, direction I should take to make the situation better. So I don't put all the "blame" on my husband. I have my relationship with God and talk (pray) to Him daily, so just because I don't attend a church, a building, does not make me a bad person. God knows me and I know Him. And that is all that matters. Any group of people that get together and discuss His ways and love Him are His followers. I would love to find a church/community that I am comfortable with, but that has not happened yet. Until it does, I'll continue to pray and serve God the best I can. And I know he excepts and loves me for that. I feel it's sad for some people to think the only way a person can worship God is to walk into a building they call a church, because SOME of them that do forget so much of it when they walk out the doors of that church. I take my "church" with me everywhere I go, like any good Christian does, but I don't pass judgement on others because they do something differently than I do with their beliefs and how they talk to God.
I wasn't making this post to put my husband down in any way, I have the respect for him like a wife should, I just wanted him to see the "better" side of life and allow God to shine through him. And it happened!
Thanks everyone for your support, we are very happy, issues have been laid to rest, he is taking care of his family just fine now :)
Southerngirl

[Mom5farmboys]

Southerngirl,

Don't let anybody make you feel like your less of a Christian because you don't regularly attend a church. A church is not a building but a group of people who love Christ. It sounds like you have a good healthy personal relationship with God, and thats all you need to worry about. If you find a church thats a good fit then great, but theres nothing wrong with spending time studying the bible and reading the Word on your own too.

I too have not found a church in my area that I like. I did find one but its over an hour away and unfortunately I don't get there as often as I like. I do however have access to sermons from this church on tape, and that is a huge blessing to me.

Keep up the prayer and God will make a way. He knows the desires of your heart! God Bless you and your family.

[Terri]

Southerngirl, nobody thinks you are a Bad wife! Not at all!

But, since I have already walked the path that you are walking, I thought that I might have advice to offer.

Speaking of which, when I feel taken for granted I ask DH for a "date night". I can rent a couple of movies, make popcorn, order a pizza, and have a quiet evening with DH!

[Southerngirl]

Terry,
I greatly appreciate any advice like you shared with me, that is why I posted this HOPING to find a woman that has been down this road that I could talk to. I would like to send a PM to you and get to know you more!!!
Thank you everyone for your love and concern!
I would love to get to know many of you ladies more personally!!!
You are all awesome and I'm looking forward to knowing you better.
Southerngirl

[Southerngirl]

Mom5farmboys,
Thank you for seeing my point of view about the "church issue", it makes me feel so good to know there are other good Christian's out there that feel the same way.
Southerngirl

[Terri]

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[Builder Ken]

Southerngirl I got in on this a bit late but I want you to know that I thank God for my wife and the changes she has made in ME. I have traveled down some dark roads in life some most people would never understand and without her love and prayers for me I would not only be what I am today but I might not even be here. Remember this is coming from a man and beside every good man you will generally find a good woman. That woman may not be his wife or girl friend but it could be his mom or grandmother. One other thing I have found that prayer is a way of life not just a nightly or daily thing but a constant thing. My wife and I have found many answers to different situations through prayer but the hardest lesson to learn is listen and obey the answer you get. It may not be what you want but God has bigger and greater plans for you bigger than you can imagine. Our family will continue to pray for you and yours.

Ken