Hard To Get Back

[pamsabear]

I was convinced by my doctors and husband that I should stop homeschooling my daughter and put her in a small Christian school. I had been sick, was weak and just caved in. It was also with the understanding that it would be temporary. This was at the start of the 2008/2009 school year.

After being homeschooled for kindergarten and first grade we had her evaluated (required once a year in Florida). She was reading at sixth grade level, had ninth grade reading comprehension, etc., etc. After one year at the school (a very good one) her scores had dropped!

I want to start homeschooling her again, but husband feels she is better socialized (I hate that word) in a regular school. I think she's pick up some very bad social skills. She wants to be homeschooled, but doesn't want to leave her friends in the middle of the year. This has convinced me that I should never have stopped homeschooling her. This is a disaster.

So, I warn people to not give up, because it is hard to get back:sad:

Pam

[momma_to_seven_chi]

It is very difficult to homeschool in a household not in agreement with one another. There ends up being too many heated discussions about the subject, and the child(ren) pick up on it. I've seen many families in turmoil where there was no agreement. "how can two walk together except they be agreed?" I'm sorry it has turned out this way for you.

[Grizzy]

Hey mamabear,

You know when it's your problem, things look fuzzy and unclear. But standing back, maybe this isn't such a biggie. Are you all better from whatever made you sick? Also, we have a first grader now that we're discussing right?

Be Strong
~Grizzy~

[pamsabear]

I homeschooled her for kindergarten and first grade. She has been in a christian private school for second and now third grade.

I am better, but my husband is an anxious person and I think he's concerned about facing change again. Also, like many people, he is on the socialization bandwagon.

I will try again to talk with him before the Christmas holidays. I would love to start homeschooling again in January.

Pam

[Grizzy]

Then what I was going to suggest for you to think about is this, and by the way, I'm so happy that you're better :) !!

If possible...

1. Assure your husband that you have the ability and curriculum to teach your child.

2. Make a list of some of her classmates you think bring goodness into her life. Knowing she would be homeschooling but holding on to children she's come to care for will make the transition alot easier.

3. Find other homeschooled children in your area who will, in the end, become her circle of friends. As your homeschool activities increase with other homeschooled children, you can either slowly wean your child from her current friends or maintain those associations.

My daughter went to a Christian school for one year. We were shocked to find out how many children, who are very difficult, are enrolled in private school because they couldn't make it in public school. Personally, I think a little bit of disapline could have remedied the problem but thas another thread haha...

Homeschooling offers kids the potential for such a better education, in my opinion. Look around you, in this politically correct world, and remember that it trickles down into the classroom. The main thing is that you and your husband are in agreement. You both love this little one and one another. Let that love be your source of strength and motivation to be as resourceful as possible to make the transition back to home education... so its a win-win end result for your home.

Gosh, pamsabear... This is just what seems to be a solution to THIS bear. I hope you find your way in this. I so admire you for what your heart desires for your family.

Bearhugs
God Bless
~Grizzy~

[cinok]

If her score where so good I cant see them dropping becuase of school. did you work with her at home. Maybe the first test was a off or the standards have changed. Its descion yo both need to make but remeber the child is in the middle.

[Steve_L]

The data shows that homeschooling is better than Christian schools.

And yes, if you don't use it, you lose it, and there is no way that even a Christian school was working at a 6th grade level in 1st grade. If you don't lose, you forget.

This story makes me sad. I really want to homeschool my little girl, but I don't think my wife will support that. I need to retire, I think.

Socialization is entirely bad, unless you want your child to act like a punk.

[Cil]

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Socialization is entirely bad, unless you want your child to act like a punk.


I have partially disagree with you, Steve. It depends on who you do your socialization with.

[Grizzy]

I have partially disagree with you, Steve. It depends on who you do your socialization with.

Critturs... are Good People!

Be Strong
~Grizzy~

[pamsabear]

Well, I spoke with DH and it didn't go well. I won't stop trying though:victory: I'm a determined person and I truly think home schooling is the way to go.

I agree: this is a sad situation. It is so hard when two people who are so in sync when it comes to raising our daughter run into this kind of wall.

Thanks for the support.

Pam