hanging & rehaning & rehaning metal door

[Suzy]

This is not a post about "building." It is a post about sheer exhaustion....mentally and physically...

I've spent all morning hanging an metal door into the side of my chicken house so I don't have to bend down and go through their little half door anytime I want to gather their eggs....

The metal door was one in the storage barn that husband got somewhere for free....it had hinges on them but they would not work where I wanted to put it....I found that out after I'd tried and tried to make them work....

I cut out the 2 x 4 over the former opening and got a really rough, door opening roughed in...

But the hinges were the stickler and that darn door was so HEAVY! I put a board under it to hold it up while I screwed the other hinges to the 2 x 4 but it still drags on the ground....it is kind of going downhill there....

I dug it out so at least I can open it enough for me (and the chickens ) to go in and out in the daytime and so I can shut them up securely at night...

But it is SO FRUSTRATING! I know that my husband would have known that the first set of hinges would not have worked right off the bat....but I know better than to ask him ANYTHING about ANYTHING I need to do around here....

He can no longer do actual work because of his heart but he didn't help around the homestead anyway....

And this week he flew into a rage and actually DEMANDED that I "get rid" of all my animals....

The following day I compiled all the figures for 2008 proving that ALL the animal feed was paid for BY THE ANIMALS (eggs, goat milk soap, etc) with actually a profit left over that I paid on some of the other bills!!!!

But it is SO FRUSTRATING to live with someone who has knowledge that I could benefit from, but who I know better than to ask....

So either this afternoon, or another sunny day when I don't have to go somewhere about my writing, I'll be down there moving the door just slightly higher...

[sbemt456]

suzy I can so relate to what you are saying about hubby. With projects here mine will not help or give any advice to make it easier for me. Seems like an uphill battle and I either make do the best I can or give up and watch it fall apart.

Just keep going, you have to for yourself.

Have a great day!

stella

[flatwater]

An interesting post, but could we look at it from a mans point of view, I try and phisicaly and suggestively help my DW but she wants to do it her own way. I'm fine with that but when her way does not work I end up fixing it. So I told her if she doesn't want me to help don't ask me to fix it up later. You know how men are , always trying to fix things

[Suzy]

I must have been REALLY tired this afternoon because I left the "g" off of both "hangings".....

I've tried to see things from a man's point of view but that is hard.....hard when the man fusses about things that aren't done around the house and the fact his health prevents him from now doing them.....when some of these things (holes in the kitchen floor come to mind really quickly) have been there for YEARS way back when he COULD and WAS ABLE to do something....things that wouldn't have cost much money but just a little TIME....

Thanks Stella for your words of encouragement!!!

[sbemt456]

Flat you are a good man,and obviously very considerate. Not that mine is bad, its just that we go in different directions all the time.
Suzy it is almost like they are creating stumbling blocks for us. When I ask hubs for advice on something, I really want his opinion, not for him to tell me he dont know, when I know he does. Guess we have to hang in there Suzy, cant live with em, cant live without em and ya cant set em on the street corner, some body else will get em. ;)

Have a great day!

stella

[LeatherneckPA]

Ladies, try the S-S-S cure. "shoot it, shovel it, shut it"
Just kidding!!

There is a little role reversal going on at our place. DW wouldn't let me get rid of the rabbits, nor eat them. BUT she doesn''t water or feed them either. somehow that fell to me. Not that I can complain. I'm "not allowed" to do laundry, and since my cleaning is NEVER good enough to satisfy her I'm not expected to do housework.

On the other hand, I am expected cheerfully, and in a timely manner, jump to any task she requests of me. sometimes that cheerfully part is a little tough to do.

I'm waiting to see how she does with assisting in the garden this year before I make too many plans for the homestead. she talks a great story.

[sbemt456]

Leatherneck I bet that if she ask your advice or opinion on something. you would give it and not withhold help and info to may the task harder for her. The one I am married too creates those stumbling blocks for me, to the point I fail a project or get so frustered I give up. Dont expect him to do it all or to always help for that matter, just a little tiny bit of encouragement in the form of input would reap great rewards.
I blame our frusterations on this weather. >:( Maybe we will all be better in the spring.
Ya know I think bears hibernate solo. Think they are on to something there. ;D

Have a great day!

stella

[flatwater]

it's that woman are from venus and men are from mars thing. Suzy , I'm going to take a jump here. It sounds like your husband may suffer from depression from his resent medical problem. It often happens to men when they have heart problems and this depression can come out in many different forms.

[Suzy]

No-----husband has ALWAYS been this way....not just since heart problems...there are holes in the kitchen floor that have been there for FOUR years....water standing under the house that has been there nearly that long.....

I think it is just super frustrating to me because he showed a "different" side of himself when we got married for the last time in 1996....plus he was raised on a farm and always talked and talked about all the projects they did and all that....he just didn't add in that he wasn't EVER intending to do any of them again! ha!

Finally gave in on Saturday and called my son on my cell phone (he lives adjacent to us on the farm) and he came out and with a drill driver and a few screws accomplished more with that door in 10 minutes than I could have all day...

But he works really hard so I try not to bother him except in an emergency.