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Old 02-01-2011, 09:35 AM
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Why is it when people ask "What do you think?" they actually have the nerve to be surprised that I answer honestly. Sometimes, the truth ain't pretty.
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That's a good point!

That's the same crowd that'll have a dozen reasons as to why the advice, answer, etc. isn't right. Even if you know their "excuses" aren't the truth.

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Why is it when people ask "What do you think?" they actually have the nerve to be surprised that I answer honestly. Sometimes, the truth ain't pretty.
Well I think it is a matter of the subject. Relegion,Politics and other hot topics are taboo. As far as person to person communication I avoid those subjects like the plague. If you are asked a question in one of those area's it best to change the topic, but be subtle people can really get fired up.
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Well I think it is a matter of the subject. Relegion,Politics and other hot topics are taboo. As far as person to person communication I avoid those subjects like the plague. If you are asked a question in one of those area's it best to change the topic, but be subtle people can really get fired up.
I think querty is right, and generally speaking, I'd avoid any answer at all. Also it depends on who is asking. Do they really want your opinion and will respect it, or what is their motive? Sometimes people are only just trying to justify their own opinions and are seeing whether you agree with them. They could even become hostile if you don't agree with them.
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"What do you think"

I try to answer that question depending on the situation.

If it is something I can truly contribute to, and my input is genuinely sought to lead to a conclusion to the matter, I will be strait forward and factual. A useful tool I have found in this type of situation, if I have useful info, is to say "here is something to consider about that" then relate facts to steer there thinking in a better direction.

If someone is being a "smarty pants" just asking for ammo to use to throw back at you. I will side step, "gee I don't know" (translation= stick it in your ear, you aren't getting ANYTHING useful from me)

Too many times people will use the "truth" as a club to use on others.
That isn't a good way to deal with people, I think.

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I don't know. to each his own of course, and it does not have to turn into a big argument, but why pussyfoot around serious topics? should we just talk about the weather and other benign topics so nobody can get upset?
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Why is it when people ask "What do you think?" they actually have the nerve to be surprised that I answer honestly. Sometimes, the truth ain't pretty.
cinok - You are one of the most honest people on this forum, when you respond to a question it's always straight from the hip... we can count on that

I have to say that when questions are written on discussion forums, there is a pretty good possibility, that if it's anywhere other then in food, animals, health, and a few others - then it's most likely - bait! People like to toss something out there and then reel it back in with a few jigs and plays along the way, for sport! Most people don't care what anyone else says about anything, but having good discussions is an art form of the highest regard... you can't be an idiot and verbally box with the best of them.
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