He passed away after a long siege of health issues in February. But we wanted to wait to have a service for him until the weather was nicer and the wild fruit trees in the woods around the cemetery were blooming. Our longtime family friend, Pastor Nate Anderson conducted the service as he knew Javid from the day he arrived from Calcutta, India and friends and family gathered to pay their respects with love. It was hard for me, especially when Will and David began filling in the hole his urn was placed in. Today, I’m feeling tired and a bit down. But I’m glad Javid’s free of pain, worry, and depression and has left his wheelchair behind to run and jump, up in heaven.
We had several days of rain and even had a bit of snow yesterday morning. Wow, I thought Will was joking. After all, we already had nineties, didn’t we? I went out and checked the onions we’d planted and watered. They look nice and relieved it is now cooler. It looks like I might be able to till out there, in the Wolf Garden, tomorrow. All that rain sure drove the manure down into the soil. Will finished up right in the nick of time!
I almost had a boo boo. I went to sleep and yesterday, early morning, my eyes popped open. We were forecast to have frost and near-freezing temperatures and had pulled in the hanging baskets and plants. However, I had not taken all the melon, squash, and pumpkin seedlings in off the back deck. We totally forgot about them in getting ready for Javid’s memorial. I jumped out of bed and hurried in to look at the temperature. It was 6 AM and 33 degrees F! Holy cow! I yelled to Will, and, in our underwear, we went out and started bringing in flats of seedlings. Fortunately, none had frozen, nor was there frost. Yet. Right in the middle of all the hurrying, I stubbed my toe on a box and did a face-plant, right into boxes of books and bulk seeds. Owww! I ended up bruised and sore, but Will managed to help me up. What a way to face the day with the memorial and company afterward. Today, I’m resting up a little, getting ready to keep on with the gardening stuff. I’m so happy it didn’t freeze our fruit tree blooms! — Jackie
Dear Jackie, I am so very sorry about Javid. I have never had children, regretfully and we couldn’t afford adoption. I’m so glad you got him from India. I had friends who were in India in the 70s and have kept up on the country since. There’s so many won things about the country and so many awful things as well. Javid would have been in sad state as an adult there. But you brought him here, gave him a wonderful life with a loving family and friends, care that he wouldn’t have gotten in India. Thank you for doing that for him. When you get to Heaven he’ll be able to greet you standing on his legs and give you a big hug! Just that in your future is wonderful. Just don’t make it anytime soon, please we need you as a teacher and a friend! Lots of hugs!!
Javid was lucky he ended up with you. He couldn’t have asked for better folks. I’m glad you were there for him.
You made Javid’s life so much better than being in India. He was blessed to have you,and in return your family was blessed.
Adopting him sure made our hearts soar for sure. We’ll miss him always.
Prayers for your family. Celebrating your son’s life after a near freezing of trays of starts, face plant- not good at Anytime .the memorial,a release of earthly limitations for Javid . The photo s of him showing his happiness and joy. Remember him in this.God Bless you
When anyone speaks of Javid, it’s not that he was a “poor, handicapped boy”, but how he always managed to have fun. He went skiing, rode horseback, went to dances, played baseball, loved fishing and always people. I’ll bet he and Jesus are having fun.
Hugs and prayers for you and your family. Its always so hard to say goodbye to those we love.
I feel glad Javid has cast off earthly bonds, but boy does he leave a big hole in our hearts. Thank you so much.
Loved the pictures of Javid that Chris brought!
Our weather here in far north California, just hasn’t been hot long enough. My Kentucky wonders just will not come up. Sown a couple times and nothing. We’ve had these big swings from one extreme of weather to another. Everything’s growing so slow and turning yellow. So unusual this time of year.
We, too, loved those pictures. Chris and Javid were very close friends since they were young boys. It’s so wonderful to have such a friendship! Yep, we’re having crazy weather too. We had 90’s, then a few days later, snow. No rain. We can only pray this stuff evens out so things will grow.
My sympathy to you; I admire what a strong woman you have been all these years. Javid hasn’t needed his wheelchair since February, and perhaps he was looking down, grinning, seeing you take a tumble and nearly needing it instead!
Something my pastor said has meaning to me…our soul is on a journey, like a long, long rope. The first inch or two represents our life on earth, the unending piece that remains is eternity.
He will meet you there, Mom, but you have every right to grieve your loss. Hugs.
Yep, I was thinking I just might need his wheelchair as I lay, hurting, on the floor. Fortunately, I wasn’t that bad. I agree with your pastor. We’re on a long journey, for sure. His earthly one is finished but the better one has just begun. We’ll sure miss him every day though.
God bless you, Jackie ❤️
Thank you Robin.
When you lose someone you have deeply loved grief is the price you pay. You changed his life for the better and now he goes to a new home. My condolences .
Thanks Everett. Although we’re happy Javid is now free of his earthly handicaps and wheelchair, we are so sad because we miss him so much.
So sorry for the loss of you beloved Javid. You must have so many wonderful memories of him that will sustain you now. That is a blessing.
So glad to hear your hot loving starters were saved from frost and take good care of that toe!
Thank you, Robyn. We do have tons of wonderful memories of him; some we shared at his memorial. Our pastor, Nate, remembered coming for a visit when Javid was young, finding him upside down in the driveway with his wheelchair. He asked Javid what had happened, and he replied he’d smarted off to his brothers.
The toe is okay but my boobie is multi-colored today.
As hard as it was I’m glad you could have the memorial for Javid with the pastor, family and friends. He’s free of pain and is now running and jumping. It’s a comfort to know you’ll meet again.
I’m thankful it didn’t freeze but sorry you face planting and hurt yourself.
It’s rained a lot here too and believe it will stop by tomorrow.
No snow and I don’t mind one bit.
Good the manure was put on the field just in time and hope you got out to till today.
Have a good night and rest well.
Thanks Cindy. It’s lucky we got the manure on and the rain drove it in. Now it’s dry as can be so we’re getting gardens tilled again. We’re due for more cold and frost advisories. That’s crazy after 90’s!! I’m getting over the face plant, except for some bruises and twinges. It could have been so much worse.
Jackie and Family,
Losing a child at any age is a hard thing to endure. Hoping that happy memories will help you make it through this heartbreaking time. Your loss is Heaven’s gain, may he Rest In Peace.
Thank you so much Sherrie. It is so very hard but I know things will get easier over time.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Thanks so much Leona.
Blessings on you and your family. Javid was as fortunate to have you as you were to have him. Praying for comfort. Rest is good for the body, soul and spirit. ❤️
Thanks Sheryl. We’re going to miss him for years, I’m sure. As it’s spring, we’re forced out of our grief into renewing our gardens, which also helps.
So sorry for your loss. I hope you take care of yourself and your happy memories with Javid are a comfort.
Thank you, Brenda. We do have lots of happy memories with Javid.
So sorry you lost Javid but he gained Jesus….
So true, Pam. I’ll bet Jesus is happy to have such a faithful new resident in heaven.
I am so sorry. Losing a child is unlike any other loss. Peace to you all.
Nancy – my name is Nancy. Losing a child is like losing your arm. You learn to cope without the arm or child. However, the pain & grief cut like a knife for the rest of your life.
Yes, it will. I keep seeing his empty chair in the dining room.
So sorry for the heartache. As someone else mentioned, David seemed to always have a smile. You made his life bearable.
Prayers with you and your family 💞
Thanks Toni. Just to clarify; we lost Javid, our adopted son from India, not David, our homemade son, who many of you have seen grow up through Backwoods Home Magazine. Javid left a big hole in our hearts.
May God’s peace surround you and give you comfort. Your son is now in God’s loving care, watching over you always.
With my heartfelt sympathy,
Judi Almand
Thanks Judi. It’s hard, knowing it will be a while before I see Javid again. Meanwhile, we are trying to overcome the sadness of missing him.
Try remembering that we are pilgrims here waiting for the better land with God and Jesus. That knowledge makes everything better; but it is hard to remember when we are sad from our loses. Remembering you and your family in prayers today.
That’s sure true, Jan. Luckily, we’re busy with getting gardens ready, so that takes some of the painful edge off of our loss. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your life with us, including the losses and accidents as well as the new calf or glimpses of wildlife. Your son’s life too seems to have included the joys of family and friends as well as the troubles he leaves behind. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you Patricia. Our life isn’t any different than anyone else’s. There are days of wonderful job. And days of horrible sadness. Javid was a true joy all his life. We’ll miss him every single day.
IMHO, Javid would *not* have been surprised to hear your oh excrement wake up moment. Seems like every picture I’ve seen of him over the years, he had a smile on his face.
Hoping to wake up to rain in the morning. While better half waters, rain is best. And foraging needs some moisture (and some warmth, been a little cool lately). Asparagus has also slowed down.
Second planting (staggered, we did not lose plants) of taters are popping up.
No, Javid probably got a big belly laugh over me, having my eyes pop open, remembering the poor seedlings on the back deck.
It’s been very dry here. The rain we got really helped, but now everything is needing rain, including the pasture and hay fields. Looks like drought coming our way this year….
We have frost advisories tonight and tomorrow night. Yuck! Luckily, nothing tender is out yet.
So sorry for your loss, it is hard to lose a child…..
Yes, it sure is. I’ve lost parents and a husband. But this is the hardest yet. Thank you.
I’m really so sorry for your loss and that fall and all you had to endure today. If I was up there I’d just hold you and let you cry on my shoulder. He is up in heaven and he is made whole. No more tears, no more pain just a wonderful joy that only he knows since he is with Jesus now. We can only imagine the joy to come. It’s raining down here and under a tornado watch until 3:00 am. I did get the apple tree pruned .It looks better. You’re great to answer my questions on such a day! May God always bless you! Belinda
Thank you, Belinda. I sure hope your weather eases up and you have NO tornadoes!
My sympathy and prayers to you in the loss of your son. Hoping the memorial gives you some peace and comfort. And also sorry for your fall…your week has been a tough one already. We’ve had plenty of rain in western Minnesota and I’d be ok for a break. No planting yet.
Katherine
Thanks Katherine. Things are easing a bit now, but it’s dry as a bone lately. Send a bit of your rain our way. No, we haven’t started planting yet but we are getting gardens ready for it.